My husband, best friend and lover passed away a few months ago. We had been planning our retirement next year for several years previously. He left us without so much as any kind of lingering illness

- in the middle of the night. The depth of my grief has changed over time but it can still hit me at the most inconvenient of times. A therapist has been a good sounding board and I recommend it. My primary care doctor, with all good intention, prescribed two anti-depressant and stress medications. Didn't work for me at all. I took the meds for 4 days and stopped. All they did was magnify the grief - after I had begun to think I was on the mend. I think nothing helps better than to have empathetic dialogue with those who have experienced similar situations. I'd hoped to find that here.