Just to add that I totally understand about people not being able to understand an addiction death and the stigma that still continues in 2014. As if we were still living in the dark ages, society is still largely ignorant of addiction.
Amy, I lost my brother Taki to an overdose in May 2009, he was 45. It is a wretched situation when you lose your only full sibling. I have three much younger half siblings whom I love but it can never be the same as my brother because we shared the same parents, stepfather, and childhood and adults memories. I still get resentful hearing my husband talk to his sisters about their growing up, I have no one do do that with. It is as if you lost part of your life and physically I feel like I lost a part of me.
Amy, I am so sorry about your brother. Addiction is such a difficult thing. My sister drowned, but drugs played their part in leading to it. My sister was an addict, with a seizure disorder made worse by drugs. She passed Oct 2013. We have questions surrounding her death. My sister had her problems but she had a good heart.
It's really hard with addicts. You love them and you want to help but you can only do so much. They have to want to help themselves. All I ever wanted was my sister to get the help she needed. Now we all feel like we didn't do enough.
I'm here to talk if need be. We don't stop grieving but it changes. We get through each day. We go at our own pace. Hugs
Hi, Amy. I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost my brother to an overdose, it will be a year ago on Oct 2- two days after his 44th birthday. You are right, the loss of a sibling is very hard. I miss him every day and grieve for all of the things he is missing and for the fact that so few people knew what a truly compassionate and wonderful person he was. He fought addiction for so many years and I think sometimes people only see the addiction and not the person. I hope you are coping, it really does get a little easier as time passes. I remember feeling as if the whole world was covered by a dark cloud for months and there was no escaping it. If it will help, I am available to chat. I know sometimes it seems like it is hard to find many who understand the pain and guilt that is left behind for us who have lost someone to drugs. Hang in there- Jen