i am in canada
my daughter is 23 and just lost her common-law spouse of 3 years no will either , i am administrating his estate it can be done
not sure what would be needed in the states but find out by going to the court house and ask, the clerks are usually very helpful
Anita, My heart goes out to you. I, too, lost the love of my life in June 2009. We were planning to marry mid-June 2009. The holiday season this year has been so horrible! I can relate to every word you write -- wish I knew how to let go of "should", "could" or "would" haves as well. It has been so hard to go through the holidays without him, his smiling eyes, and his kind heart! I have to keep thinking God will take care of me and give me the strength to make every day, but I do miss him so very, very much!! May God bless and keep you in His loving care!
How is everyone? I feel like I am losing my mind. Every emotion in the world is coming out and I have no idea how to control them. Dec. 9 my fiance and I were going to be leaving Florida and drive to Texas to spend our Christmas together with close family and friends and the little boy we sacrificed 4yrs of our life to protect. Our christmas were rough throughout the yrs and this Christmas was special. It is killing me to be sitting at home without him. The lonliness consumes me, the heatache sufficates me and going on isn't a desire anymore. I hate my life, I hate that he is gone and that I am all alone. How do you let go of the "should haves", "could haves" or "would haves"?
may the almighty God give you the fortitude to bear this irreplaceable losses.Tears don't just wipe away the most horrible things about nature, The memories will ever linger' around in everything that he had left behind. pls put yourself in order.note Malcolm had a client of mind,need to talk confidently with you.got few things around.... mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org
My Heart goes out to you as it does to all of us who are suffering the loss of our loved ones.
Today is my Birthday and I really miss my darling Keith who would have brought me up a cup of tea and sung me a little song like he sang to me every morning all our marreid lives.
My daughter's name is Anita so I am drawn to you for more than one reason.
Anita, do not expect too much of yourself this Christmas or in fact at any other time. There is no statute of limitations on grief. Take you rtime and wherever possible, focus on the things that you di togehter to make you smile, to make you happy. That is what he would want for you.Blessings
Hi Anita, Well it is the day before Thanksgiving. I have the next 4 days off and I am not looking forward to them. My husband's parents want me to eat dinner with them tomorrow but I know all they will do is talk about him. I don't know if i can do it. My heart hurts so much. I am not sleeping well. I don't want to get out of better. I think that people are getting tired of me wanting to be left alone. I need to be alone. My daughter has put up her Christmas tree and playing Christmas music which makes me cry.
I am sorry that you are hurting so bad. I wish that I could have the hurt for you. Yes, I would be mad knowing that this could have been prevented.
Take care and remember that god loves you and will take care of you.
Thank you, Anita, for writing. I'm working hard on trying to cope. I never dreamed it would be this difficult but with God's help, I am making it. I have begun to make myself involved with a group that helps other people that are having it rough and this helps take my mind off my own loss. Best of luck to you and I hope your holiday's will be good. Life goes on and we are still here. Take one day at a time and trust in God. Love, Jeanette
I sit here and just wonder how all this garbage started. How did I end up here? It's not the material things for I didn't care about them, it's the memories we had created in this home. I know I won't be here forever, just not ready to say goodbye, I guess. Right now I feel so awful for I had entrusted a man that Malcolm trusted and he has stolen a gun from me. I am now fighting to get it back and he is attacking me in every way. I just want to be left alone. It seems as if you have so much to deal with. I am so sorry. Please hold strong. It's been very hard for me to be for tonight for about 10 min. I just break down and cried. I've been looking for a job for I think that's the best thing for me right now. Keep busy. I was too ill to stay @ harmony farms and left after an hour and half. I am trying to eat normal and just feel normal. When does that happen?
The attorney broke the news to me that I have no standing or rights but did say I may have about 5 months left in my home. A lot can happen in those 5 month. God can do a lot of work for me. I pray every day and will continue. I look foreward to church almost crave it. God will take care of me and I'm going to hold faith to that. You never said
where you live. Will his benefits be enough for you?
I will pray for you in hopes everyhting begins to smooth out for you and your days become easier. My fight is just begining.