My beautiful Mom. http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/vilmadopsonharnamji
My brother Darin. http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/darinneilharnamji
This is My Blue Eyes, Robert. He was my Life-Partner for 22 years, from 1985 until 2007. He is The Love Of My Life and I miss Him more than life itself. http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/robertwilsonkopler
Robert and Barry
The following is taken directly from my tribute website to Robert.
Our Story: Robert Wilson Kopler and Barry Wade Harnamji got together in 1985 and remained together until 2007. When we met, Robert was working two full time jobs. He had always been independent from very young, generous to a fault and stubborn as the proverbial mule. He's always known what he wanted and would not let anything get in his way. As time passed I realized that Robert was the best person for me and pretty amazing as well. We lived our lives as best we could for the next several years until life intervened, as it normally does, with something painfully unexpected.
At the end of February 1996, Robert experienced a massive stroke that left the right side of his body partially paralyzed and he became disabled at the age of 34.
The following years meant a lot of rehabilitation, going in and out of hospitals and battling additional complications.
Robert endured more complications than any one body should ever have to handle but his strong spirit pulled him through every time. I saw him at the brink of death on so many occasions, only to be snatched back to me at the very last moment. I very seldom use the word “awesome” to describe anyone but it’s the most befitting of words to describe Robert Kopler and all of the adversities he overcame.
I have never felt more helpless and hopeless, however, as I did while Robert was in the hospital and then when he came home to recuperate.
I watched helplessly as the body and spirit of this most vibrant and beautiful person began to slowly decline as the years continued.
On May 08, 2007, I was with Robert when he took his last breath. His body could take no more pain or suffering.
Robert Kopler took his last breath in my arms. It was the most painful experience I have ever known and one for which I will never overcome. We were both 45 years old. Robert was My Life's Love and I love him with everything I possess.
My biggest regret is keeping this beautiful person, who I loved for over half my life, and our lives a secret for so long.
I Love You Forever, My Blue Eyes.
My Mom: http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/vilmadopsonharnamji
My Brother Darin: http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/darinneilharnamji
Feel free to sign the Guest Book or Memory Book. Your comments and feedback are appreciated. Thank you. Barry
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dedicated to Robert.
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dedicated to my Mom.
Please visit my tribute website to Robert
and the Legacy memorial websites to Robert Kopler, my Mother, Vilma Harnamji and my younger brother, Darin.
I hope that visitors will take away that Love IS Love. I made the website to show the love I have for the these important people in my life. It is too late for me to change things so I want to celebrate and share a little bit of their lives with family, friends and new friends.