Hello Belinda, just checking on you. Hopefully everything is ok. Have a great day!

Hi Belinda,

It's been a rough year, as we also lost my dad January 12. I AM coping, it's just hard with all the "anniversary dates". I'm not looking forward to March 26 (my parents' anniversary); April 7 (my dad's birthday) and April 27 (my mom's birthday).

 

How are you doing?

 

Carol

Belinda,

  I have tried to write back to you a hundred times, and each time I feel like I am dumping all of my hurt, sorrow, anger, and utter sadness on you, and you have enough without mine added to it.  I'm still lost, and it's been 10 months.  Today is Christmas, and I know I'm supposed to be all "cheery, and good tidings", especially for my husband and kids, but Bah Hummbug sounds like a better match.  Last night my husband said "You're going to have to learn to deal with the outside world."  And all I kept thinking was "I am dealing with it, I just don't know how to live and be happy in it."  Sometimes even the thought of my kids going into therapy as adults because their mom went cuckoo after her daddy died isn't enough to get me living.  The light that seems to keep me going is helping my mom.  Everything I feel, she feels 10 times more.  She doesn't know who she is without her husband.  I know I still have a future out there, but for her, the future is what she planned with my dad.  She asked me "Am I still married?".  Logically, of course she isn't still married, but how do you just stop being what you have been for the last 42 years?  Enough of me, how are you?  I know everthing you were was rapped up in your parents.  How are you getting by?  How are the kids?  Please dump it all on me, as I seem to do it to you.  Drop me a line when you get a chance.

Cheryl

Belinda,

  I have tried to write back to you a hundred times, and each time I feel like I am dumping all of my hurt, sorrow, anger, and utter sadness on you, and you have enough without mine added to it.  I'm still lost, and it's been 10 months.  Today is Christmas, and I know I'm supposed to be all "cheery, and good tidings", especially for my husband and kids, but Bah Hummbug sounds like a better match.  Last night my husband said "You're going to have to learn to deal with the outside world."  And all I kept thinking was "I am dealing with it, I just don't know how to live and be happy in it."  Sometimes even the thought of my kids going into therapy as adults because their mom went cuckoo after her daddy died isn't enough to get me living.  The light that seems to keep me going is helping my mom.  Everything I feel, she feels 10 times more.  She doesn't know who she is without her husband.  I know I still have a future out there, but for her, the future is what she planned with my dad.  She asked me "Am I still married?".  Logically, of course she isn't still married, but how do you just stop being what you have been for the last 42 years?  Enough of me, how are you?  I know everthing you were was rapped up in your parents.  How are you getting by?  How are the kids?  Please dump it all on me, as I seem to do it to you.  Drop me a line when you get a chance.

Cheryl

Belinda, I did friend request you. Thanks for the note. I'm finding this site a bit confusing at times.

Belinda, I'm sorry--I believe I misread your message to white dove as being to me. I really am trying to find my way around this site but it's all new to me, so excuse me.

Hi Belinda,
I sent you an email from the invite you sent me but not sure if that is where I was suppose to send it. You will see my new email address where you can contact me.

Tina

Hi Belinda,
I sent you an email from the invite you sent me but not sure if that is where I was suppose to send it. You will see my new email address where you can contact me.

Tina

Hi Belinda:) I pray your travels all go well for u! Thank u so much for your prayers.. i do believe they help us.. i try so very hard to learn during very hard times.. and i have.. and the more i learn the less i find out i know lol! Drop me a line when u can ... after your settled and let me know how u are doing k? Thanks dear. Hugs and love paula