Betty, please accept my condolences, my heart goes out to you and your family. We're all here because we've lost our children.....no parent should out live their children. The pain and heartache is tremendous and I wish I could tell you that it will get better. A horrible person/persons felt the need to murder my son Mark A. Ashley on March 30, 2009, he was 27yrs old and I'm still suffering as if it happened yesterday. The best thing I can tell you is try to stay strong, if you need to scream, cry, yell....do it and do it as often as you have to. Don't listen to those who tell you "you should be over it by now". We as parents will NEVER be over it. Visit this site as often as you can it's filled with wonderful caring people, it's awful that we all must meet like this...life has dealt us all a terrible blow. If you find yourself needing someone to talk to or just listen we're here. Amy, wrap your arms around yourself and squeeze real tight, you have just been hugged by me, Janice. Amy, I will keep you in my heart and prayers...may God bless you and your family.

Love Janice

Dear Betty,

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter.  Your loss is still so new, so I know you are in the surreal part of your journey.  I am Debbie, and I lost my son, Joey, on June 20, 2008 by passive hanging when he was 26 years old.  I hope you find the support you need here.  I am also on a group called Mom of an Angel.  We are a group made up of moms who have miscarried, or lost babies, children, and adult children in our lives. We share our lives and the lives of our children with each other, and I can tell you that I have found many friends on this site.  It is momofanangel@yahoogroups.com.  I hope I will see you there as a member when you are ready to join.  My prayers are with you and your family, my friend.

Love and hugs,

Debbie, Mom to ^i^Joey (10-31-81--6-20-08)
Lorin, Mike, & Greg

 Hi Betty, I'm so sorry for your loss.  This special group of ours is full of support for each other.  Betty, my name is Janie.  What was your daughter's

name?  I lost my son, it will be 3 yrs, on Jan. 9th.  The pain is no different than that night Rich died.  Life sometimes gets easier, however the pain will

never go away.  I thought I had it under control this Christmas, but we went to church, I cried through most of the mass.  God has taken our kids

home to be with Him.  He, our Lord is the only One that can help up through

each day.  If you believe pray everyday for His help.  I'm not on this site

everyday, but it was a great comfort when I did find it almost 9 months

after Rich's death.  I still find it comforting, and would like to help by just

sharing your daughter's life and my son's life together.  I'm from Brookfield,

Wisconsin.  Your journey is just starting.  You will be in my prayers.

LOL    Janie

 

 Hi Betty, I'm so sorry for your loss.  This special group of ours is full of support for each other.  Betty, my name is Janie.  What was your daughter's

name?  I lost my son, it will be 3 yrs, on Jan. 9th.  The pain is no different than that night Rich died.  Life sometimes gets easier, however the pain will

never go away.  I thought I had it under control this Christmas, but we went to church, I cried through most of the mass.  God has taken our kids

home to be with Him.  He, our Lord is the only One that can help up through

each day.  If you believe pray everyday for His help.  I'm not on this site

everyday, but it was a great comfort when I did find it almost 9 months

after Rich's death.  I still find it comforting, and would like to help by just

sharing your daughter's life and my son's life together.  I'm from Brookfield,

Wisconsin.  Your journey is just starting.  You will be in my prayers.

LOL    Janie

 

Betty I am so sorry words can't even begin to tell you how I wish i could just give you one of my sons great big hugs that is what i miss the most when you were down he had such a way of huging you knew everything would be alright.  Your family is grieving in their own way let this group help you and maybe you can get with a group in your town i have gone to compassionate friends once I know some didn't like it but it was good to hear how other people are coping with their loss also, I am also looking into something called griefshare but this is at a church and is a 13 week session and right now i don't know if i could go and listen to how God loves us so much and only does what is best when he has allowed such beautiful children to be taking away from all of us I know it wasn't his doing my son went into the other lane and hit headon but i have been told by many people at the sceen they have seen worse and people lived but my son died and he was wearing his seatbelt and the air bag went off, please just know we are all here for you we can't take the pain away but please remember we all are sharing it with you

To be honest if it wasn't for this site I realy think i would have taken my own life already, i have 3 other children but 2 are step children but i count them as my own since my husband and i raised them since they were babies but all the  kids are grown they are 23, 22, 21 the 21 year old came back home from college to help me and we told her she could live here for free just to keep me busy but she isn't ever here she says its just to hard and i know it is. His room and clothes comfort me where everyone else just gets them sadder so I stay on this site so much i have started a journal and talk to certain friends my doctor has me on medicine and I can realy tel if i forget to take it, I hope you have gone to your doctor and got something some people says its a crutch well right now we all need all the crutches we can get.  Some people says time it gets better not ok but better and then some says it gets worse i hope and pray it gets better my parents lost my two sisters in a auto accident when they were 13 and 16 and i was only 2 so i don't rmember but i do remember that i had a normal childhood even though i saw my parents sad alot but they got thru it and thru this site and help from others i pray we all will also.

Betty:

I lost my 17 year old son in a auto accident on november 19th just a few days earlier than you lost your daughter, I'm not the one to tell you if it gets better because like you i am so numb most days i feel like i can't go on, but i can tell you this site has helped me more than any family friends or even grief counseling no one judges and everyone truly cares, and no one tell you it was for the best and it was Gods plan.

Betty,  It may not seem like it now, but I promise you it will get easier.  I lost my only child Jacob on 3/11/10...my world forever changed that day.  I did not think that anything would ever get better. Although you will never, ever stop missing your child, and it will hurt forever, you will be able to function again.....It may not seem like it now.  The normal you knew in your life up until your loss is gone...a new normal will soon take its place.  You will have many, many, many hard times, and that is when this site will help you.  You will be amazed at how many people are here to help you through these hard times...for some reason it is such a comfort to know that all of the people here know exactly what you are going through...we do, we have experienced it ourselves. Come here often, read, write if you want, and let us help each other.  Before you know it, you will be helping someone else.  There is no judgement here, you can rant and rave, cry, yell, scream, anything, you will always find someone to help you, or rant and rave or cry and yell and scream with you...you are not alone. 

Hi Betty, first very sorry for the sudden loss of your daughter.  You are now in the very beginning of this journey called grief.

These postings below say it all, I can't add a thing.  This website has been a life saver for me. Only here do people truly understand our pain.  For now it is minute by minute, and hour by hour for you.   You can't rush a thing.  Take is slow, try and rest yourself, read books that help you to understand and read the like posts on this website whenever you can. 

Hugs to you and again very sorry for your loss.

p.s.  Yesterday (xmas day) was my son's (39) first angel birthday.  He left his loving family on xmas morning 2009.  Our family has and never will be the same.  But we are working at bringing joy and happiness as much as we can back into our lives for the sake of his 3 beautiful daughters left without a Dad.