Brian Sutherland
  • 52, Male
  • Port Talbot
  • United Kingdom
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At 8:55pm on February 9, 2012, Hillary said…

A friend of mine wrote this to me a few months back...we actually met over facebook, but she helped me more than people I have known for years and thought were my friends Here's what she said:

"I know it(speaking of the intense pain) will lift. It is hard to fathom now when each day and night drags on infinitely empty, with no end to the pain in sight. But it will gradually ease, and you will smile again, laugh again, love and be loved again. Now, all you can do it give in to the pain. Grieve fully and deeply, and when the time is right, the pain will let you go." -Joan L.

At 8:47pm on February 9, 2012, Hillary said…

Dear Brian,

I understand the loss of someone that we loved so deeply, is just absolutely devastating. My little brother was taken suddenly with no warning, and he was only 25 years old. When our loved ones are taken like that, it leaves us with a sense of helplessness that is almost impossible to explain. We never got to say goodbye or tell them that we loved them one last time, and it is just all the worse when people around us don't seem to help. No one seems to have any definite answers on anything, and that in itself is just so frustrating. I am still searching for answers and I have not found any clearly defined ones as of yet. Know that I am here for you and please let me know if you need anything..You can always talk to me.

At 9:07pm on September 7, 2011, Lisa W said…
I felt like I tried to hold things in sometimes so much it made me almost unable to cry when I wanted to . Loss is such a cruel  emotion to deal with and  when you feel  numb  at times its hard.
At 8:49am on August 29, 2011, Yvonne Sanchez said…

Hi Brian,

I don't believe there's a definite explaination for grief. We all grieve in our own way. You seem to simply have chosen a way to deal with your loss by comforting others. This is the way my youngest sister deals with loss. She does not cry or get upset. She comforts others and offers words of encouragement, while allowing them to cry and grieve in their own way. This does not mean she doesn't love the person who has passed away. It simply means her trust in God is strong and she has faith to believe she will be reunited with that loved one again real soon. Just be there for who ever needs you right now. I will keep you in my prayers.

At 7:16pm on August 27, 2011, Don DeVault said…

1st,Never be embarrest, Its all life,being you was so far away and didnt see her as much could be Why you are felling this way.When my grandmother pass i didnt feel what i should have and i think it was cause we hardly saw or talked.Not having to deal with the after part of everything was a blessing to you cause thats when a lot of people have the Worst times.If you feel like your done grieving then its possable that the worst is over But,You are going to have them days where your going to feel like What you did wasnt good enough,Always feeling like there was something more. Like with me i feel everyday i wish i wouldve told my brother i loved him more,Or wish this and wish that.Things like that will pop up out of nowhere and its ok , Its going to try your heart,Brain,Nerves, Its going to take a tole on you at some point,I hope it passes you up but know that it could hit at anytime, It did me and its still kicking my butt, lol. Just no that you love her,You wouldve done anything for her.,Talk to her! I talk to Kenny everyday and it helps me.Really it does.. I Do hope it all works out for you and you do have great days to come.I wouldnt wish losing a brother or sister on Anyone.People lose moms & dads,grand parents.but to lose a sibling is the thing id i hope ever few will have to deal with, Take care..

Don.

At 7:16pm on August 27, 2011, Don DeVault said…

1st,Never be embarrest, Its all life,being you was so far away and didnt see her as much could be Why you are felling this way.When my grandmother pass i didnt feel what i should have and i think it was cause we hardly saw or talked.Not having to deal with the after part of everything was a blessing to you cause thats when a lot of people have the Worst times.If you feel like your done grieving then its possable that the worst is over But,You are going to have them days where your going to feel like What you did wasnt good enough,Always feeling like there was something more. Like with me i feel everyday i wish i wouldve told my brother i loved him more,Or wish this and wish that.Things like that will pop up out of nowhere and its ok , Its going to try your heart,Brain,Nerves, Its going to take a tole on you at some point,I hope it passes you up but know that it could hit at anytime, It did me and its still kicking my butt, lol. Just no that you love her,You wouldve done anything for her.,Talk to her! I talk to Kenny everyday and it helps me.Really it does.. I Do hope it all works out for you and you do have great days to come.I wouldnt wish losing a brother or sister on Anyone.People lose moms & dads,grand parents.but to lose a sibling is the thing id i hope ever few will have to deal with, Take care..

Don.

At 6:23pm on August 27, 2011, Don DeVault said…

Hey Brian,2 things come to mind ,When we lost my brother 8mos ago,I couldnt cry,be upset,est, Nothing!,Till 1 person told me it was the fact i was looking out for everyone else,During the showing people kept saying to me, Donny,You have to be the strongest person in the world,Dude you just lost your Brother,( Who i Loved more than life its self) I didnt have time to cry,Be upset nothing,But! aftera few weeks when i new Everyone,Mom, Dad, My sister,My Kids, Only after knowing all was ok,I lost my mind and ive not stoped yet,I have Really bad days where all i do is cry,Curse people out,Ive just been really hateful.Im now seeking someone to talk to and i would have Never done that before,Things are just getting to bad for me to deal with,I miss Kenny(MyBrother)More & More Everyday,He was my Only brother.I no he wouldnt want me to feel the way im feeling but i cant stop it.So you may be looking out for you sisters kids by you holding it together,Watch your self tho,It could brake at anytime like with me and not stop.God Bless my friend you and your Family and i really hope what ive said helps in any way. Take care and know that we all on this site are here for you..

 Don D.

 
 
 

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