I had to respond to your comment because you reminded me so much of myself. My husband and I were married for 34 years. He had cancer and for the last 4 years of his life he struggled to beat it. He lost the fight in October of 2008. He developed complications so his death came alot sooner than we expected. We thought that we would have several more months with him.
It does get easier with time. My advice is to keep busy, especially with your family and friends. Find someone that you can call night or day just to talk. Most people I think are afraid to mention our loved one, afraid they will upset us, but I really enjoy talking and remembering him. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I laugh. I find the little things that used to bug me the most about him are the things I miss the most.
I told my husband at the end that we were going to miss him but that we would be okay. I think it helped for him to hear that.
I wish you the best. Take care. Lynn