"Dear Mary Jane,
Your time at the movie, and the earlier discovery of the drawing you had made of Bob, really hit me. We really do all go through the same things despite the distances and circumstances that are between us.
Sunday, Steve and I joined…"
My friend, you have had more on your plate than anyone deserves all at one time, and I am so sorry for the timing of everything. Feeling not only overwhelmed but as though you've gone down the rabbit hole is perfectly understandable,…"
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband that has brought you here. My husband of 32 years, Larry, passed in April of 2015 of cancer. Indeed the words "putting your life back together" are on the mark. I felt then…"
It is so good to hear from you - I so often think of the friends who have made such a difference for me in this family, and hope they are well and finding their way.
The sculpture is spot-on, and thank you for sharing it.
Be well and…"
I am so sorry for the loss of your father. I know it will be so difficult trying to be strong for your mother, and all you can say to her is the truth - she will appreciate that.
My prayers for you and your family - wishing you some…"
My dear friend, I am so so sorry for the pain you are having. Going through losses and suffering anxiety by ourselves - meaning without our spouses - is possibly the most frightening and debilitating aspect of our lives as they are now.…"
Thank you for the friend request - I humbly accept, and want to say that your contributions to our caring family are so gratefully welcomed. I do hope that being here with us is helping you as you go through your journey along this…"
I hope those in the USA had a safe peaceful Fourth of July. I have been occupied with several things that kept me from following everyone here for the last several days. I am always inspired when I do read the posts by the connection…"
I so agree with you in hoping that everything we share here gives hope and encouragement to anyone reaching for some understanding of their pain and loneliness upon losing their beloved - whether spouse, partner, or friend. I concur…"
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Joe. All of us here have found ourselves in the dark frightening place of losing our spouse, and although our lives and circumstances may differ greatly, what we share is a common understanding…"
How true are your words - I seem to be reminded when I least expect it that my life is not "normal" since losing Larry, and it is hard to verbalize that to people who either haven't had such a loss, or know me only…"
"Dear Mary Jane,
I just read your post from yesterday, and want to reply. First, I thought if you have a high school or college near you, you can call them and ask if they accept donations of art supplies for students - I gave mine to a friend's…"
Six months is such a short time for our grieving, and I hope the feeling that this is therapeutic for you continues as your journey moves forward. Please don't worry about leaving anyone's name out of your posts, as I at first…"
"Dear Mary Jane,
I am so sorry about the fear you are experiencing facing the possibility of colon cancer. I am praying that the colonoscopy reveals no signs of such, and gives you the chance to relax and calm down the EBS. All the many things going…"
Move over dear, because I too am behind the curve playing catch-up. Addressing Patty's wondering if it is better to know of our impending losses, I can only offer my experience after Larry and I were told in late summer of 2015 that…"
Hi Chuck. I hope this works. I am still not familiar with my IPad...I was soooo happy with my XP...but then I had to get a new Windows 7.5 or 8 or whatever it was, and finally had to switch to wifi...(I knew it was just a way for Big Brother to watch you LOL...yes I am an x hippie...hope that doesn,t bother you. And, no, I could not afford an IPad..when Bob got sick, my daughters boss Bought me this! Her father had died of cancer, but she was able to FaceTime him across the miles b4 he died and she wanted to do the same for my daughter. Ironically he died the next day after it arrived and we never got to use it.
I am going to make each of my posts short so if I loose them here, I won,t have poured my heart out for nothing.
I HAVE to tell you why I chose YOU to befriend...it was your PICTURE! I am guessing that is you and Larry? I took one look at that picture and to me, it looked EXACTLY like one of those pictures that come with a frame you buy in the store. It was wonderful. Which person are u? You will have to excuse me if I get information wrong...I have a very hard time focusing on who is who. Steve is your new love, right?
You can swear all you want with me. I don,t care. Words only have power if u let them. Ok I am going to see if this posts..if it does, I will send u a second post about who I am than you for responding.
Hi Chuck. Thinking about you. Haven't seen any posts from you recently which has me worried. I'm aware you have health issues but if you're able to, please check in. I'm sending extra prayers your way.
Chuck,Sorry to hear of your losses as well,especially last April of your husband.We all share similar feelings and I'm glad that I've found this group,I can say whatever may be on my mind without judgment and even if no one responds,it's good to release it.Some people/ family don't know what to say so I usually respond with I'm ok when anyone asks.elyse sister of Lee 6/13/59-5/28/14.I posted on the main wall a suggestion of each member posting this at end,so we can send a remembrance to each other,I thought it was a nice gesture,what do you think?
Chuck, my new friend......As far as I'm concerned, you're just a man going through the same heartbreaking loss we all are.....the loss of our soulmates. I too was apprehensive about posting on a forum such as this for the same reason, how do you know what/who is real or fake. I came to realize very quickly through the comments I read that we are all very real and offering helping hands to each other.
One of Ken's good friends is gay and has been with his partner for over 30 years. They were lucky enough to get married a few years ago. Ken and I would go out with them in the same way we would any other couple. We would go to dinner, walk around a lake near us, go out for an ice cream etc. We would talk about the same things anybody else would. It was of no concern to us what other people may have thought. I want you to feel comfortable and safe here. Love is love and that's it. Gay or straight doesn't matter.....at least not to me.