I just wanted to say that I can relate very well to your words, and remember being asked when I was in the hospital being informed that Larry had passed many questions about his wishes, my wishes, etc. For weeks this seemed to be the…"
"Dear Debbie R
I am sorry for the loss that brought you here, and truly feel that the caring people I have met through this family has saved my sanity and my life.
I haven't posted for awhile, but your words compelled me to pop in again letting…"
"Dear Mary Jane,
First, you never have to apologize for being negative to us, because this is the family where we can be openly and honestly candid about what we are truly feeling without having to worry about offending anyone. We all have some…"
Well, it's officially Christmas Eve, 3:30 AM, and I am still awake and edgy. Maybe it's the full moon (always has had an effect on my sleep habits) or "holiday blues". Mostly, I think it's memories -…"
Another "missing person" heard from. Like you Mary Jane I miss coming here and talking to friends who I know will get me and not judge my crazy ramblings. And like you Deb, I'm always reluctant to keep saying the same…"
I have not finished writing the piece I started about my first summer with Larry. As Steve has been keeping you informed with his treatment plan and such, I know you will forgive me.
My own medical appointment are purely at a point of…"
"THis reminds me of the painting you did of my mother holding me as an infant. She loved yellow roses. She was born in Wichita Texas. In 1994 armed only with a prayer card that mentioned she was buried in Carlyle Arkansas, God led me on a phenomenal…"
My thoughts are with you today - your comments made me pause and reflect on when the finality and permanence of Larry's loss first hit me. It was I believe when a friend drove me home from the hospital, chatting all the long way…"
Thank you for your kind understanding of my feelings. As always, you share so much of yourself with us, and it always helps me past the point words can convey. I had been wanting to say something to you weeks ago when you were facing you…"
Your words, that your wife deserves to be remembered at her best, not your worst, went so directly to my heart and gave me a tremendous amount of comfort and guidance. I shall always remember them when I am getting pulled into the web of…"
Thank you - you always say what I need to hear to make me feel better. Yes, the Texas heat some days knocked the stuffing out of me, but I think I am adapting. I will never lose my preference for cooler summer nights with breezes and the…"
I haven't posted in awhile, but have been reading the posts and sending silent prayers out to all of you. I am continuing to get settled with Steve in our new life in TX, and although it is at times exhausting, it is a good…"
I wish to add my welcome to our family here, because over the nearly three years I have been in this group, that is how I have come to feel about everyone. In that respect, this is indeed a place where I feel welcomed unconditionally.…"
Hi Chuck. I hope this works. I am still not familiar with my IPad...I was soooo happy with my XP...but then I had to get a new Windows 7.5 or 8 or whatever it was, and finally had to switch to wifi...(I knew it was just a way for Big Brother to watch you LOL...yes I am an x hippie...hope that doesn,t bother you. And, no, I could not afford an IPad..when Bob got sick, my daughters boss Bought me this! Her father had died of cancer, but she was able to FaceTime him across the miles b4 he died and she wanted to do the same for my daughter. Ironically he died the next day after it arrived and we never got to use it.
I am going to make each of my posts short so if I loose them here, I won,t have poured my heart out for nothing.
I HAVE to tell you why I chose YOU to befriend...it was your PICTURE! I am guessing that is you and Larry? I took one look at that picture and to me, it looked EXACTLY like one of those pictures that come with a frame you buy in the store. It was wonderful. Which person are u? You will have to excuse me if I get information wrong...I have a very hard time focusing on who is who. Steve is your new love, right?
You can swear all you want with me. I don,t care. Words only have power if u let them. Ok I am going to see if this posts..if it does, I will send u a second post about who I am than you for responding.
Hi Chuck. Thinking about you. Haven't seen any posts from you recently which has me worried. I'm aware you have health issues but if you're able to, please check in. I'm sending extra prayers your way.
Chuck,Sorry to hear of your losses as well,especially last April of your husband.We all share similar feelings and I'm glad that I've found this group,I can say whatever may be on my mind without judgment and even if no one responds,it's good to release it.Some people/ family don't know what to say so I usually respond with I'm ok when anyone asks.elyse sister of Lee 6/13/59-5/28/14.I posted on the main wall a suggestion of each member posting this at end,so we can send a remembrance to each other,I thought it was a nice gesture,what do you think?
Chuck, my new friend......As far as I'm concerned, you're just a man going through the same heartbreaking loss we all are.....the loss of our soulmates. I too was apprehensive about posting on a forum such as this for the same reason, how do you know what/who is real or fake. I came to realize very quickly through the comments I read that we are all very real and offering helping hands to each other.
One of Ken's good friends is gay and has been with his partner for over 30 years. They were lucky enough to get married a few years ago. Ken and I would go out with them in the same way we would any other couple. We would go to dinner, walk around a lake near us, go out for an ice cream etc. We would talk about the same things anybody else would. It was of no concern to us what other people may have thought. I want you to feel comfortable and safe here. Love is love and that's it. Gay or straight doesn't matter.....at least not to me.