It's me again... Remember, even though our Mom's are gone. We are still children of God, so are our Mothers. We know our mom's loved us, imagine how much our Heavenly father loves us. I know he picked my mom out just for me ( and my siblings). He planned her for me and me for her. What a gift! He loves us enough to let us be mad. Just don't focus on the anger.. Focus on His love for us. It helps me to think this way. Thought I would pass it on.
Hi.. I am so sorry about your mom. I know that you are hurting and I understand. If you're like me, no matter how old you are (I am 42), you are always going to want your mama. I still start down my hallway to ask her a question. In the last year of her life she called me, "Mama." I still hear her calling out for me. To be honest, there is probably nothing I can say to really make you better. I say, go ahead and feel bad. She was YOUR MOM! How can you feel better in such a short time? Grieve for her. Grieve for yourself. It is just very important not to let the grief overtake you. Don't let your grief be the only thing in your life. That is so hard. I try everyday. I am trying to depend on my faith. I got angry at God and I told him so. I think that was okay. Anger is an emotion that He gave us. It's just what you do with it that matters. My mom used to tell me if you don't feel close to God, guess who moved? I am sure you have seen that quote somewhere, it just meant something when my Mama said it. My mom always knew what to say. She was always blunt and to the point. Sometimes that could hurt my feelings, but it ended up helping grow to the person I am today. My mom was a great example of a mother and grandmother. I have decided to honor her by trying really hard to be more like her. I want to be a more patient person and accepting of others. I want to replace all of my weak qualities with her strong ones. These are things I think I am going to try to ease my grief. I think we all have to find our own path to ease our grief. It does help to "talk" or share with someone in a similiar situation. I would love to be there for you. Feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. We can help each other get through this sad time. If I can say one thing to you to help you, it would be this.... Don't be in a hurry. Take it day by day or hour by hour or minute by minute. You can't be expected to "get over" someone you have spent your lifetime loving. I am here for you... Keep in touch.