Cynthia Murphy
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  • Jonesboro, GA
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Cynthia Murphy liked Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
Jul 28, 2016
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Harold. I'm so sorry you have to go through this hurt. A friend from junior high sent me a gift on day, a journal and a pen, to document my everyday life. I wasn't consistent with it but I did write. Now when I go back I can really see…"
Jul 25, 2016
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Marsha H, I enjoyed your response especially the one about the ladder! My boyfriend is my high school sweetheart. . His sister hooked us back up. Next week will be 2 years. I would be terrified of online dating. I don't trust many people…"
Jul 24, 2016
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Marsha H. Thank you for your kind words. Friday was a long day. A very close friend tried to end her life. I had to notify her family. Hopefully Saturday will be better. I'm busy redoing the deck on my mom's house. Using power tools…"
Jul 23, 2016
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hello Charles and everyone else, I wanted to post a couple of clips from my book. They kinda explain the thoughts going through my mind on how I looked at my husband's death and my recovery so far. At 6:30 Thanksgiving morning I ceased to be…"
Jul 22, 2016
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I don't get on here often but I have been thinking about everyone on here. A friend of mine is coming up on the first year anniversary of losing her husband. Today was his birthday and I have to say she did well. I hated those first anniversary…"
Jul 19, 2016
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"What brings yout here?Hi Joann"
Jul 13, 2016
Joann Sueing left a comment for Cynthia Murphy
"Hi Cynthia, I really look forward to speaking with you.  I know exactly what you mean about attacks.  when I go shopping with my daughter, I get anxiety attacks.  It's like I want to get back home to him.   What's even…"
Mar 19, 2016
Cynthia Murphy left a comment for Joann Sueing
"I have to go to Newnan tomorrow for a memorial. My number is 770-572-6782 if you need to talk. I teach school but free after 5:00 and weekends. I had these attacks and would have to get out of the house. Things do get better. I'm up really late…"
Mar 19, 2016
Joann Sueing left a comment for Cynthia Murphy
"Hi Cynthia,, We are very close.  I feel so cheated that I had to come home and find my husband who had died.  I will always wonder if it was sudden or if he laid on the floor calling for me.  He did have the phone in his hand. My…"
Mar 18, 2016
Cynthia Murphy commented on Joann Sueing's status
"Hi JoAnn. I live in Jonesboro, Georgia not too far from you. I lost my husband November 28, 2013 to complications from diabetes. He died at home while talking to me. It was traumatic to watch this unfold in front of me. I highly recommend finding a…"
Mar 17, 2016
Cynthia Murphy replied to Muriel Siadak's discussion My partner died 6 weeks ago and how can I survive the pain? in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Muriel, I lost my husband of 38 years 23 months ago. We were alone at home when he died on Thanksgiving morning. We had all these plans as this was his favorite day of the year. I did CPR on him till the paramedics arrived to no avail. It hurt and…"
Oct 25, 2015
Cynthia Murphy replied to colleen kingeter's discussion I am new and lost in the group Bereaved Spouses
"It has been almost 21 months since my husband of38 years lost his battle with diabetes and all the problems it causes. It took me a while to join a bereavement group but it turns out to be one of my best decisions to go. I learned so much about…"
Aug 16, 2015
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I had to seek out a counseling group to attend and I believe that is what helped me. Yesterday was the 20 month anniversary of my husband's death. He was 56 years old. He died in my arms at home, just the two of us along with God. Several…"
Jul 29, 2015
Cynthia Murphy replied to Miguel's discussion Closing an estate feels like betrayal in the group Bereaved Spouses
"I lost my husband November, 2013. It is disturbing to have to start charging everything in our former life. I was having a horrible time getting myself together for going back to work and a co-worker talked me into going to an actual grief…"
Jul 19, 2015
Cynthia Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"It's so sad that our tragedies are what brought us together but that we are blessed to have the opportunity to share our hopes and fears for our futures alongside with our tears for our losses. I lost my husband of 38 years in November, 2013.…"
Jul 9, 2015

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Posted on December 30, 2013 at 7:01pm 0 Comments

I am not sure I will ever enjoy the holidays again. My husband passed away on Thanksgiving morning at our home. It was his favorite day of the year. He had been sick but did not want to spend the day in the hospital. He had heart problems and diabetes and did not like doing what he should do each day.We were married 38 years and best friends during all those years. People always asked what our secret was and he said "holding hands". He always reached for my hand when we were out somewhere. I…

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At 1:28pm on March 19, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Cynthia,

I really look forward to speaking with you.  I know exactly what you mean about attacks.  when I go shopping with my daughter, I get anxiety attacks.  It's like I want to get back home to him.  

What's even worse is to drive in the garage and see his car parked,, and to  come into the house and he's not here.  I know in time, I will not feel the hurt, pain and anquish that I  feel now but that time hasn't arrived.

I will give you a call soon.

Joann

At 1:28pm on March 18, 2016, Joann Sueing said…

Hi Cynthia,,

We are very close.  I feel so cheated that I had to come home and find my husband who had died.  I will always wonder if it was sudden or if he laid on the floor calling for me.  He did have the phone in his hand.

My husband had been previously diagnosed with bladder cancer.  It had not spread and we were going to the Cancer Center over here by us for a treatment.  We were very hopeful, because bladder cancer is very treatable and it had not spread.   I always felt that when the day that it would have been from cancer a long time down the road.  I would never have dreamed of him dying suddenly from a heart attack.  

I feel so helpless.  I have not gone back to work--it's been 4 weeks now, and my job is saying that since I had not been working at my particular job for at least a year, I didn't qualify for FMLA.  They expect me to return on Monday to a stressful job with severe depression.

I feel that my husband worried about me being so unhappy at this job, along with the fact that we were having some financial difficulty.  I would have panick attacks at least three times a week.  I haven't had a panic attack since my husband's death but have aniexty attacks.  I realize now that the panic attacks were because of my job.  So I am not going back.

I am happy that I have found this group.  If you ever want to talk on the phone, please let me know.  

Joann

At 2:31am on January 16, 2014, e.SORENSEN said…

Cynthia, I have tried to reach many on this wed site. I wrote a lovely message for you...I wish you the best and if I can learn how to navagete this site. I have heart and soul to offer.

Be strong and try to look for the little miracles in life, children, nature a mis hap gone right for you!es

At 5:49am on January 8, 2014, Jane P. said…

Cynthia, My husband was also very sick before he passed in June,  2011.  I was his primary care giver and I juggled work and taking care of him also until I had, with no regrets, to give up my beloved job because he needed me more.  My husband passed at the age of 59 from lung cancer I was a widow at 56 years old!  It does get easier as time passes but it seems there are still triggers that take me back to those horrible day when he was so sick.  

I do not know what grade(s) you teach but some children can be cruel.  They have no clue about grieving let alone the grief we are experiencing with the loss of a spouse. Even some of your co-workers do not understand the pain you are in.  My suggestion is to change routines as much as possible even if it is a different route to get to work.  Coping with grief such as ours is a roller coaster ride and it takes many baby steps to find where we belong, where we fit in and where is our life  headed from here.  I still have issues with all those questions but I take every day as a new beginning, I make no plans and I just try to put one foot in front of the other.  You too will make it .... it just take much time  and many tears.  Hugs, jane

 
 
 

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