"Danny, I hadn't heard from you in a while and was concerned about you. I am glad that you are keeping up with family and friends but know that it is not the same as before. Nothing is the same. You are thoughtful to volunteer your time and make…"
"Sara ... I am so proud of you for planning to go to visit Ken's family. Yes, odd how we are either the 'elephant in the room' or playing host, but that being said you being near the family is second best to grieving…"
"Thanks Deb and Marsha. I probably will go because I know Ken would want me to stay in touch with his family. I also know they'll all want to talk with me about him. I haven't seen them since his funeral in…"
"I came across this and it struck a cord in me and wanted to share it with all of you in hopes it helps to strengthen you in your journey of grief:
THERE IS ANOTHER FAMILY CREATED BY GRIEF, NO ONE WANTS TO BE A PART OF. WE ARE ORPHANS LOOKING…"
"Sara ... I understand that you don't like traveling alone and I'm the same as you. Phone and see if you can possibly go with someone else. I hope you do make the trip because it opens one's eyes to know there is…"
"Deb, I think it's great that you took such a trip by yourself. Ken's family is having a family reunion in July at his cousins house in Maine which is a 3 hour drive for me. I'm debating whether or not I'll go…"
"Dearest Chuck, My thoughts and prayers will amp up for you on the 15th. Have you formulated a plan for how you will spend the day?
Thank you for your kind words. This might well be the first time that I have mentioned my husband by name. It is not…"
I read your words with happy tears in my eyes, because they convey something I have been praying for - the beginning of healing and finding some measure of peace in your soul. When you first wrote of your road trip I felt…"
I am smiling that you and Kim's brother were able to spend time together reminising and visiting special places. As we here know well, loss shared brings comfort and removes just a tiny piece of the loneliness, at least for the…"
"Danny, I'm glad you're able to spend some time with your brother in-law. I think it may help both of you to reminisce about Kim although it will likely be painful as well. I lost my husband this past January as…"
"Danny, It is nice that your brother in law is visiting. It is not easy to visit old places, remember special moments, recreate conversations, and cherish the love shared between you and Kim. The emptiness will likely never be filled.
"My brother in law is visiting from Korea and will be with me for the next 10 days. My wifes passing has dealt a big blow to him as well. Kim was his sister, but he looked to her as almost a mother, given their father and mother both passed when they…"
"Dear Chuck, I am so happy that you were able to spend several days with your friend Karen. I believe that I can hear an extra bounce in your step as you share your extraordinary visit. Sometimes talking to a dear friend until 4:00 a.m. in the…"
Danny, I hadn't heard from you in a while and was concerned about you. I am glad that you are keeping up with family and friends but know that it is not the same as before. Nothing is the same. You are thoughtful to volunteer your time and make a difference.
I so wish all of us lived closer. We could hang out and cry together. Fortunately, we have this venue to communicate. Please know that you remain in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs are on the way.
Danny, I am so sorry for your loss. You are what we refer to as being in raw grief and unfortunately all you have described is normal. I am going on my 5th year and I hate every second I am here without him. My husband passed at the age of 59 from Lung cancer we were married 23 years and together for 26 years.
You have come to a wonderful place to be able to express your inner feelings without being judged. We are all grieving, we all understand your grief and there probably is not one person on here that has not experienced or expressed what you are saying now.
Grieving such as ours is not something we get over it is something we learn to get through. Stay strong, come here often even if it is to read posts. Hugs Jane P.