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"That's beautiful and painful. I feel your pain David."
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"I wrote on my calendar Sept. 5. I changed it to the 3rd. "too soon" those words hurt."
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" I am just looking at the proof of a plaque I hope to put in Bernie<s garden. Nobody else has seen it yet: "
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"But Melinda, we have to try to be a bit braver and stronger. I hurt physically, I cry when I am alone, and miss Bernie like hell. Some days I am so shocked, I didn<t know how to carry on!  But if all 1000 members fall apart Tami would have…"
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"I hurt so much. I miss Candace SOO much!!! It not only broke my heart, it and my mind are shattered in a million pieces!"
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" Thanks Melinda. From the heart."
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Bernie's Lobelias.

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Now Know We Not the Meaning of Life's Sorrow

 

Now know we not the meaning of life's sorrow,
Now know we not the pattern God has planned.
But comes the dawn of His all glorious morrow,
Then shall we know; then shall we understand. 

Now know we but in part our life's long story,
Now see we through a darkened glass and dim: 
Then shall we see our God in all His glory,
Then shall we know as we are known of Him.
 

Now know we but the sorrow and the sadness,
Now know we but the loneliness and loss:
Then shall we know the glory and the gladness,
The crown shall rise in triumph o'er the cross.

Then shall we know the love that passes measure,
Then shall we read the mysteries of grace;
Then shall we know eternal truth and treasure;
Then shall we see our Savior, face to face!

 

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-   Tribute to a Special Son   -

 

 

Bernie was a very bright light in our lives,

A light that cannot be replaced.

But someone said that, if we are sad, so will he be, 

So I try to conquer the sorrow.

 

He always spoke well of his Mother and first Father,

And to my knowledge, since 1991, did no one any harm.

If he was ever missing in Montreal, I could find him

Sitting by his Dad's grave on Mount Royal.

 

I still laugh at his infectious humour,

Like when I sang in the house, he might say with a smile,

'Si tu chante pour moi, tu peut arreter!'

('If you're singing for me, you can stop!')

 

He will not age, he will be forever our young Bozo the Clown.

He made me listen many times to his song that said,

'C'est en septembre que je m'endors sous l'olivier'.

(It's in September that I shall sleep beneath the olive tree.)

 

But back then, pity, I only knew the English lyrics. 

I never got him to a warm beach

Or home to les Isles de la Madeleine,

But he was so happy with his dogs, his home and his garden.

 

I take Lady and Lucky to visit his old campsite in the forest,

Where we hope one day to see him, bent over the fire.

I shall shout 'Berns!', and the dogs will break into a run, 

And there will be big, loving hugs and smiles. 

 

Until then we know that God has work for him,

Laying stone paths, building low garden walls,

Or chopping wood in His heavenly garden.

He will be so fulfilled and content.

 

God love you for all time, Berns, as we do,

Lady Maggie, Lucky 7 and Papa Dave.

 

R.I.P.

 

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            God's Garden

God looked around his garden 
And He found an empty place. 
Then He looked down upon the earth, 
And saw your tired face. 
 
He put His arms around you, 
And lifted you to rest. 
God's garden must be beautiful, 
He always takes the best. 
 
He knew that you were suffering, 
He knew you were in pain, 
He knew that you would never 
Get well on earth again. 
 
He saw the road was getting rough, 
And the hills were hard to climb, 
So He closed your weary eyelids, 
And whispered "Peace be thine." 
 
It broke our hearts to lose you. 
But you didn't go alone, 
For part of us went with you, 
The day God called you home.

 

 - Mary E. Deforge.

 

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Words of St. Paul.

If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part,10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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Giving When it Counts... 

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a 
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who 
was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only 
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood 
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had 
miraculously survived the same disease and had 
developed the antibodies needed to combat the 
illness.. The doctor explained the situation to her 
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would 
be willing to give his blood to his sister. 

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a 
deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it if it will 
save her.' As the transfusion progressed, he lay in 
bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, 
seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his 
face grew pale and his smile faded. 

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a 
trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away'. 

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the 
doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his 
sister all of his blood in order to save her

but he had chosen to save her anyway.

Bernie would have done it.

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Peace.

As I pray every night for His help for Bernie, I feel strongly that I have now handed him over to God's loving care, and that of His Blessed Mother.
 
When I speak to Them I beg for a warm, little corner of the heavenly palace. I try to replace the image of him in hospital, sick and leaving this earth, with a vision of him sitting in a modest little spot by the back door of this large white palace, dressed all in white like all the other spirits moving around. He is looking up, out of his depth, awed by the circumstances, but safe and secure, healthy and handsome. In my mind's eye, and my heart's eye, this is where he is. I no longer have panic moments about phoning Heaven's switchboard, asking someone, anyone, if Bernie is okay. That is where he is.
 
This has given me the peace I need to carry on carrying on, to smile, to look after his dogs, the house and the garden. Thank you for the strength, courage  and peace, Lord, the same that I wish for all damaged parents. And when I cry, as us guys shouldn't do, I try to only have pleasant memories in my mind. 
 
For sure we shall all be together again one day. 

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From Alfred Lord Tennyson's poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

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Windshield Message from a child.

One rainy afternoon I was driving along one of the main streets of town, taking those extra precautions necessary when the roads are wet and slick.
Suddenly, my daughter, Aspen, spoke up from her relaxed position in her seat. "Dad, I'm thinking of something."
This announcement usually meant she had been pondering some fact for a while, and was now ready to expound all that her six-year-old mind had discovered.

 I was eager to hear. "What are you thinking?" I asked."The rain;" she began, "is like sin, and the windshield wipers are like God wiping our sins away."
After the chill bumps raced up my arms I was able to respond."That's really good, Aspen."Then my curiosity broke in. How far would this little girl take this revelation?So I asked... "Do you notice how the rain keeps on coming? What does that tell you?"
Aspen didn't hesitate one moment with her answer: "We keep on sinning, and God just keeps on forgiving us."
I always remember this whenever I turn my wipers on.
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At 10:43pm on April 26, 2013, Nancy L Clay said…

Flowers and gardening can be so healing, I would love to see a photo of it. Keeping busy helps too, I spent some time in the gym working through some of my stress.

At 3:36pm on April 25, 2013, Chris Taylor said…

Hi David,

Well, I've been playing "chase the squirrels from the newly planted tulip bulbs" in my backyard. So, far I'm losing the battle. I'm waiting for the weather to warm up a bit in my part of the country so that I can strip and re-stain my deck. Are those your dogs?

At 11:08am on April 25, 2013, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

How sad to see those doggies just having their own feelings of loss.  They just don't "get it" do they?  Yes that is quite a yard to take care of alone.  Especially now that it is Spring and everything is bursting out.

Love all the pictures....and yes....we just have to keep busy to help with the emptiness.  Oh every once in awhile a funny or strange thing happens and we all look at each other and say, "oh must be Donny!".  We know he is with us as much as he can be.  But his 3 girls are in 3 different states now so he is a busy angel.

susan

At 9:57pm on April 24, 2013, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

I love the flower posts from you too.  Especially the purple pansies, I have some exactly like that in my backyard in a flower basket that my grandson and I made.

The pink roses are so beautiful I am enjoying them on my kitchen table.

I wish I had taken a picture of Donny's backyard when he was in his 20's and 30's he had these huge plants called Bell Flower plants nd they were in every color in his backyard.  The scent was so sweet.  He really had a good green thumb, was good at vegetable gardens too.  just not fair he isn't here with us and his girls. 

At 8:09pm on April 23, 2013, Martha - Carrie's mom said…
It worked, at least as to my own page, thanks!
At 5:56pm on April 23, 2013, Martha - Carrie's mom said…
David, I have the photo but don't know how to upload it.can you advise? Thanks
At 7:50am on April 23, 2013, Martha - Carrie's mom said…
The ground orchids are coming into full bloom, really lovely. I've been getting home so late that it's too dark for pics but will make a point of getting a photo to post. To get Carrie out of the house, we would visit farmers markets looking for these orchids. She found them with our son-in-law the day before she died so I am fiercely protective of them! I think they have doubled in size in a year. I deeply appreciate the sanity you bring.
At 8:23pm on April 22, 2013, Colleen said…

Beautiful Poems and such a heartfelt tribute my heart goes out to you. 

Colleen

Brett's mom

At 10:54pm on April 12, 2013, Gloria Callighan said…

David meant to say thank you very much for your compliment that my son was handsome.  Oh yes indeed he was, even when he put on so much more weight at time of death.  I'm getting my first tattoo and only tattooo, a head shot of my son over my heart.  This pic was at age 38, he died at age 44.  God Bless Us All!

At 10:52pm on April 12, 2013, Gloria Callighan said…

David, the flowers and all are absolutely beautiful. I will pray for Bernie.  I don't know his story, I can't seem to pull up the information. Very slow computer!!!!  Thanks for friending me.  I need all I can get.  God Bless You.

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When I am gone, release me, let me go.

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