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DebNOhio replied to DebNOhio's discussion Have You Reached Out to Your Mom or Dad's Friends ? in the group loss of a parent
"Mom and her friend 'S' -  The day of Dad's funeral    "
Apr 18, 2011
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Have You Reached Out to Your Mom or Dad's Friends ?

My Dad passed Nov 5, 2009 (age 79) and my Mom Feb 20, 2010 (age 77).   My Dad was a greeter at Wal-mart for over 14 years.   Dad's fellow co-workers were his friends.I drop by the store, not because it's the closest Wal-mart, but to visit withhis co-workers who miss him so dearly.  After he passed, I had Mom contact the local newspaper and reporter phoned and they ran a very nice article about Dad. My Mom had 1 very close and dear friend who lives in the same town that she did.Over the past…See More
Apr 18, 2011
DebNOhio left a comment for Henry Sawicki Jr
"Hello Henry, Yep ... we lost parents within days of one another back in 2009  :( Then I lost my Mom Feb 20, 2010.   I felt the same way about my Mom.  The thing I try to hold on to the most is KNOWING the blessing Mom was in my…"
Apr 17, 2011
DebNOhio commented on jen's group loss of a parent
"    The Rose Beyond The Wall   A rose once grew where all could see, sheltered beside a garden wall. And, as the days passed swiftly by, it spread it’s branches, straight and tall…..   One day, a beam of light shone…"
Apr 16, 2011
DebNOhio replied to Cynthia Ziegler's discussion Mom and Dad in the group loss of a parent
"Cynthia,   I too lost my Dad and Mom within 3 months.   I was fortunate to have had them longer than your, as mine were in their later 70's.   Both of their passing sounds so peaceful.   Does not make their loss…"
Apr 16, 2011
DebNOhio replied to jennifer sutton's discussion The loss of a mother in the group loss of a parent
"Dear Jennifer,   Wow..... what a very rough time of it you've had.   I'm sorry for what you have gone through.   It's rough enough losing them, but to have the added burden of that stuff.   {{{{ Jennifer…"
Apr 16, 2011
DebNOhio left a comment for cathy
"Dear Cathy   If you need to talk please send me an email.     AFMomDeb@aol.com   I lost my Mom in Feb of 2010.    I know how rough it is.  Also lost my Dad in Nov of 2009     SEND YOU A…"
Apr 16, 2011
DebNOhio left a comment for Angie
"Hi Angie,   I was looking over the messages on the group and I noticed that we BOTH lost our Mother's on Feb 20, 2010.  :(   Not a happy thing to have in common, but I just wanted to reach out to you.   Every holiday…"
Feb 22, 2011
DebNOhio replied to Shannon's discussion I lost my mom 10 days ago I sent it as a message by accident! in the group loss of a parent
"Dear Shannon,   My heart felt sympathy on the passing of your Mom.  We've lost 3 parents in 15 months time. My Dad 11-5-09   My Mom 2-20-2010 and my Father in law this past Saturday.  :(   Your Mom was such a young…"
Feb 15, 2011
DebNOhio replied to anna newcomb gomez's discussion death in the group loss of a parent
"Dear Anna, You write....... 'pain of loss'. That is a fact. Death does bring us pain. We just need to find a way to transform the pain. We are here for a reason and those who have died would want us ~LIVING~ on and sharing the love that…"
Nov 14, 2010
DebNOhio replied to Sue Davis's discussion Death is the Hardest Pain to Endure! in the group loss of a parent
"Dear Sue, I can feel your pain so clearly in your words. THANK goodness you are connected to your church and with God. Some people don't have the comfort of faith. I am getting through the loss of my 2 parents in a 3 1/2 month time span of…"
Nov 14, 2010
DebNOhio replied to Stephanie Wood's discussion My 18yr old daughters best friend suddenly lost her healthy vibrant momma! in the group loss of a parent
"Dear Stephanie, That sure is a load on CC, but like you said ... There are things she has faced that have made her strong. Keep praying for that strength to sustain her. I have no doubt that CC's Mom will be close by her. THANK GOD that their…"
Nov 14, 2010
DebNOhio replied to Dottie's Daughter's discussion Grief, Grandma's Way in the group loss of a parent
"PS.. I just shared this to someone else a few minutes ago but thought it would bring you comfort and wanted to share it again.... Why Was She Here? "When I faced the loss of my dear Grandmother Rose, I asked the question, 'Why was she…"
Nov 14, 2010
DebNOhio replied to Dottie's Daughter's discussion Grief, Grandma's Way in the group loss of a parent
"HI Dottie's dtr, Thank you for sharing this here. So beautiful. I am going to copy it and share it with my brothers and family. I just KNOW your Mom would be so proud of you sharing these awesome words. :) xo xo Debra"
Nov 14, 2010
DebNOhio replied to Dottie's Daughter's discussion Familiarity in the group loss of a parent
"Hello Dottie's Daughter, YES.... I see my Mom in other folks too, and my Dad. Mom passed in Feb of this year and my Dad in November of 2009. It seems I SEE my Mom more in elderly women. So many times I would like to walk up to them and say…"
Nov 14, 2010
DebNOhio replied to Henry Sawicki Jr's discussion Just Passed One Year in the group loss of a parent
"PS.... What a beautiful photo of your Mother."
Nov 14, 2010
My Dad - Gil - May 1, 1930 ~ November 5, 2009

My Mom - Margaret - September 12, 1932 ~ February 20, 2010


My Dad was a very active 79 year old. He worked full time as
a Wal Mart greeter. He retired after close to 60 years in the grocery
business. He loved the interaction with people. In the Spring
of 2009 he had some mini strokes. He was left mobile, but with some speech
impediments. In July of 09 he fell in the bathroom and broke 5 ribs.
He never came home. Slowly he went down and down. Because of
his suffering and limitations in the end, he could not walk, he could not
move his arms.... his passing was easier on me than my Mother.
I wanted him at peace and the only way was to be HOME with our Lord.

In January of 2010 Mom was the the Veteran's administration doing
the last of my Dad's paperwork. Here in Ohio the day was cold, but
dry and sunny. Coming out of the government building, an area
of the sidewalk was raised due to the weather. This area was not
marked. Mom caught her foot and fell. She had a serious brain injury
and was life flighted to the hospital. I received a call from the security
guard telling me of her fall and her condition. She did not lose
consciousness, and so was able to relate my phone number.

Mom had bleeding in her brain, but no brain damage. We knew it was
going to be a long road back, just due to the time frame she was in
the hospital. She was released to her home though. She had family
and friends staying with her 24-7 for the first few weeks. She still
had pain in her head from where the bleed had not reabsorbed.

The neurosurgeon recommended she have brain surgery. On Feb 4th
she had 1 brain surgery, and 1 week later she had a second.
She fought and fought so hard. She actually was released from the
hospital a second time on Feb 17th. Again, released to her home
with family with her. On the 18th she collapsed. My sister in law
did CPR and Mom was revived. At that 1st hospital she was intebated
with a breathing tube. They TOLD us she was not really conscious.
I was at her side holding her hand. We could see her making slight
movements with her shoulders. While holding her hand I told her...
'Mom, Mikie is here, BethAnn is here, I am here... We LOVE YOU MOM'.
* SHE SQUEEZED MY HAND * It was light, but it was with purpose...
She knew we were there.
She was then life flighted back to the main hospital.

My brother and SIL and myself arrived at that hospital. The nurse
in ICU was taking the incoming info from us. We heard a code blue called.
I said to the nurse ... 'Was that my Mom' ? She had no way of knowing,
BUT I KNEW !!!!!!!!!!!!!! They told us Mom would need to be
cooled down and placed in a medical coma. Then in 24 hours they
could slowly bring her out and evaluate her.
Mom was 95% brain dead. Peacefully we followed previously
stated wishes and disconnected the life support.
Her heart peacefully stopped.

Mom was an active 77 year old. She was the driver for her bingo
friends. She bought a new car in early January and had a bingo
bus trip planned for that March. She was ready to take on the world
after my Dad's death. Supported by my 2 brothers and their families and
myself and family. She was grandma to 11.

See you both on the other side. Thank you for the continued and
on going messages you send. I know you are with us and not all
that far away. I truly know a Mother's love does not end with death.

Love Always,
Debra
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At 11:54pm on April 16, 2011, Henry Sawicki Jr said…

Hi Deb;

I saw on your page that your Dad passed away November 5, 2009 My Mom passed away November 3, 2009 and I miss her more and more every day!

At 7:08pm on February 15, 2011, Shannon said…
Thank you for friending me, I really feel so much worse this week and I have no one to talk to so I have been on here reading articles,
At 7:08pm on February 15, 2011, Shannon said…
Thank you for friending me, I really feel so much worse this week and I have no one to talk to so I have been on here reading articles,
 
 
 

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