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Posted on May 18, 2012 at 5:02am 0 Comments

I checked out a blog here that offers counseling and books for sale to help us all deal with our loss and stress, I guess. One post said something to the fact that some people will always cling to their grief, while others are willing to "do the work" to move on. Ok, there is a part of me that can see the trace of a valid point there. We all must decide to whether we want to keep on living, or continue existing. It took me 5 years to reach the conclusion that I could still continue to live…


I'll never understand it

Posted on December 25, 2010 at 4:02pm 0 Comments

Though my faith has given me strength since Travis has passed, it has also given rise to many questions.  Questions that will never be answered, not on this earth, anyway.  Why did they take our children so young?  Travis had the world to look forward to.  All of our children did.  And I wonder why God would let me live, and take my son.  I think its a question we all struggle with.  It just hurts so much some times.  I feel guilty just being alive. God help us all.

To Those who Hurt

Posted on December 25, 2010 at 8:18am 2 Comments

This is what I say and it may be helpful or you may not like it, but I…


To Travis

Posted on December 24, 2010 at 8:30pm 0 Comments

I remember your eyes

So light and gray

Filled with light 

On Christmas Day.


The look of awe

You gave our tree

We shared that 

Special Christmas glee


I feel your spirit

Close to me

I feel your smile

Wash over me


I wish for you

This Christmas tide

The love of God

And with him abide.

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At 9:53am on January 6, 2011, mary mello said…
thank you that is so nice of you I amcrying everytime i write Manny was my personalty kid he played a guter i put one on his stone
At 8:48pm on January 5, 2011, mary mello said…
thank you so much i think i will stick with this group i was going to try and find a local group but i don;t think so you are very nice here how long does it take to let up just a little all i do is cry at everything .
At 1:48pm on January 3, 2011, kathy said…
  Debra, the death of a child is devastating for any parent. It is an overwhelming ordeal that mere words cannot erase. But if you have suffered such a loss and are wondering why God took your child, then you are laboring under a misconception that may only add to your anguish. You need to know the truth: God did not take your child. I would like to send you something to read along with your bible that was great comfort to me. I feel it will answer some of your questions.
At 6:04pm on December 26, 2010, valerie moore said…
debra -  i tend to talk about dusty to people at work,, maybe too much   i have just a few people at work that are really nice and care about me...i realize there is only so much i can talk about it around people- i do not want anyone to feel sorry for me... things are just the way they are and other people have issues,  not just me.... i know you understand.. i am always here for you... it helps each one of us, when we are all here for each other.....  love to you,,, hugs,    valerie
At 1:59pm on December 26, 2010, valerie moore said…
debra, this is the best place to come and talk on and on about our children.  everyone needs to talk as much as possible, because we are the only ones... who understand each others feelings.  we may not understand the whys and ifs, but we are here for each other and for me, its a great comfort because i have no friends.  i am lonely.   i am here for anyone who wants to talk about their child.  i want to feel needed here and all of you make me feel need and not crazy..   love and hugs,  val
At 11:12am on December 26, 2010, Cathy Pearly said…
Thank you Debra.  I appreciate your comments.
At 10:21pm on December 21, 2010, Terri Kuta said…
Thank you Debra, I do believe my son loved me above everything else since my husband gone back to work out of town it was just jonthan and me most nights we always had one night that was movie night and even if his friends called he would say no its our movie night.  He was my baby was so spoilt his siblings would get so mad and has caused alot of fights with my husband he always got his way with me, the one of very few times i made him do something that he asked to do later he was killed doing it, I know its not my fault but why couldn't I have babied him one more time and maybe he would still be here.
At 5:47pm on December 21, 2010, Terri Kuta said…



I'm glad you have dreams of your son i haven't had one yet, the doctor finally put me on sleeping pills because i can go to sleep but wake up and all i can do is see my son dead in the truck with his hand outside the door and the police wouldn't let me hold it, then I start crying and can't go back to sleep I would love to see my son, I know he's alright he has given me enough signs but seeing his face would be the best Christmas gift ever

At 1:56pm on December 21, 2010, Terri Kuta said…

Thank you Shirley for your comment on would we change places with people who never had children, when my son died i asked god if you were going to take him at such a young age why did you give him to me in the first place, when i was 13 weeks into my pregnancy he tried to come and the doctors didn't think they could stop the labor but they did and then he became stuborn and then they had to induce and belive me he was the most stubborn child you would have ever met, but after what you said i had to really think about it and no i wouldn't have changed a thing i had him for 17 years not always great but will always have the memory of my baby boy and that is something some people will never know.

At 1:51pm on December 21, 2010, Terri Kuta said…



Thank you for your comment about the penny someone on here was telling us about always finding one I thought that was so cool of their love one and then i was having a bad day and found that under my pizza that i made my self and didn't have to pay for it since my daughter is manager, so i knew it had to be him, my son wanted to go into the military so bad but he had adhd and that would have left him out so he was gong to be a fbi agent, thank you for letting our country have your son to protect the ones who love, I believe people like him get a extra space in heaven for all their good works they gave for our country.


Terri Jonathan's mom


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