"My heart goes out to all of you. We all feel the same pain in different ways. Jeff, I too lost my son five days before Thanksgiving but I didn't bury him until December 5th. My deepest condolences to you and your family."
"JoAnn, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about wanting to go into a coma for a few months. September also marks for me the beginning of a horrible time, my son's girlfriend gave birth to the only grandson I will ever have on…"
"Terri, I have come to accept that only people who have lost a child can understand the pain we feel. I try not to get angry at them because I think it's not insensitivity on their part but rather ignorance. I think that since they don't…"
"I remember a time when Halloween marked the beginning of my favorite time of the year: the crisp cold weather, the Holidays and everything that came with it – family time, good food, Christmas carols, and presents. A time when I would…"
"Nicky, my son was murdered almost two years ago (11/21/09). I am having a very difficult time, worse than the first year. I'm thinking that it could be because I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I will never ever see or hug my…"
"Francine, I am sorry for your loss. For my son's anniversary I released doves at the cemetery and hired a bag piper to play some music, it was very nice. While balloons are very pretty and all, they are not good for animals. Sea turtles often…"
"Deborah, Vickie, Starr, and Sandra, I am so very sorry for all your losses. Sandra, I am sorry that you did not get justice for your beautiful daughter, I can imagine how you feel because I was on pins and needles for a year and a half fearing that…"
"God did not create man, man created God. If god created man and is supposed to be the "celestial father", he's not a very good one. Religious people say that he is all powerful and kind, so if he is all that why does he allow so much…"
"Jill, I rarely post but I visit the sight often to read everyone's posts, I find comfort a lot of times and a lot of times I cry and grieve when I read posts from people who just recently lost their child. It's been one year, nine months…"
"This is totally beautiful and true. Even after 4+ years this reminder is appreciated. I know who my boy is with, I know he's happy, loved, and cared for by the very best. It's still hard tho', and it takes real work, but I feel…"
dear Diane I am writing to let you know I am in the same place as you. with terrible loss and forever sadness.. we are sad together and sometimes i can get in a laugh and it feels good but we also feel guilty... caring about all of us with all this pain. it will change i guess with time. but not much.. thanks for all the photos and the beautiful headstone. i like how you wrote sunrise sunset. it was moving wish i could be closer so we could talk this site is a bit different than what we could share in person. take care carrie L
Dear Diana - I lost my son Tyler at age 24 on January 26, 2010. He was my only child. He left me with no grandchildren or daughter-in-law. Your son's headstone and the sentiments you placed on it are so very very beautiful. Honestly, I only was at the cemetary once since I lost my beloved son. My husband has never been. It's not that we have forgotten him, it is just too painful to even think about. He is not there, he is in our hearts. Every day is still dark for me. And the holidays only make it worse. Then I know I must face the anniversary of his passing. I wish I could be put in a coma and wake up in February. I will be praying for you and your family, as well as your beautiful son.
Always Tyler's Mom
The first year anniversary of my son's death was November 21st, 2010. On November 20th, I had a ceremony to unveil his headstone. It was very sad, the finality of it was devastating. I felt as though I was burying him all over again and seeing the marker made it so real, somehow in my small mind I had the idea that as long as there was no marker there, he was not really dead, but there it was. The ceremony was beautiful, poems were read, my Pastor spoke, the bagpiper played beautiful music, and doves were released. We had a reception at my house afterward which turned out very nicely.
Now I am going through the darkest period of my life, even darker than when my son died, I can't understand it, but that is how I feel.
What used to be my favorite time of the year now is the saddest time, I hate the holidays and I hate going out and seeing all the happy people shopping, all the decorations and I despise hearing Christmas music, which I also used to love. I can't wait for the holidays to be over.
Diana, I am very sorry for the loss of your son. My best friend lost her son a few years ago at age 16, he had a blood clot for no reason just like that one week he was gone. It's no fair and I don't understand. And now dealing without Skylie is so horrible, she was my angel. When you say you have nothing to live for, I totally understand. I just signed a suicide contract with my counselor. I feel like it will be so stinkin easy to just go as easy as Skylie did. But Wednesday night my 19 year old daughter was jumped by at least 20 girls, beaten kicked they stole her cell phone. She is mentally and physically a wreck but she is alive. I want to think that Skylie was there with her aunt Erica. Since that horrible call and trying to find her in a hospital has changed the way I feel about suicide. I'm sorry for going on and on. Please take care of yourself, I am sending you lots and lots of hugs. Teresa
I am very sorry for the loss of your son and it saddens me to know that you feel like you have nothing to live for. Losing a child is probably the most painful loss anyone could experience and that pain certainly does not disappear with time. Although I cannot miraculously make you feel better, I would like to share with you some words of comfort found in the Bible.
The passage of a man that lost his ten children all at once tells how he felt when he was informed of this. Job 1: 20 says: “And Job proceeded to get up and rip his sleeveless coat apart and cut the hair off his head and fall to the earth and bow down.” Job tore his clothes and shaved his head as a sign of great pain and grief. Due to everything that he went through he even wished to die, however later on he also expressed faith in God’s desire to bring him and his children back to life when he decided was the right time. Job said: “If an able-bodied man dies can he live again? All the days of my compulsory service I shall wait, until my relief comes. You will call, and I myself shall answer you. For the work of your hands you will have a yearning.” (Job 14: 14, 15) Job was confident that Jehovah God, not only had the power, but also the desire to bring the dead back to life.
Very soon our enemy, death, will be brought to nothing as it states in 1 Corinthians 15: 26. When that happens, the promise Jesus made when he was here on earth will be fulfilled. “For just as the Father raises the dead up and makes them alive, so the Son also makes those alive whom he wants to. Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.” (John 5: 21, 28, 29) You can be sure that your son will hear Jesus’ voice and he will come back to life.
In the meantime, while you wait for the day to come in which you will be with your son again, you can pray to Jehovah God for strength to continue dealing with the pain of having lost your son, and I’m sure He will listen to you and comfort you. (John 15: 16; Philippians 4: 7, 13)
I truly hope you find some relieve in reading these scriptures and knowing that God cares about you and how you feel and that vey soon your son will be here next to you again.
Diano, I know exactly how you feel, with each day getting worse. I still feel just numb and empty inside, and I like you want to go and join my son, I am not afraid, but my family has been through too much loss. You are not alone, this is why this website was made for us to reach out to one another. No matter how many friend and family I have, they don't understand the severity of the pain and loss I feel. So pls do not give up, and anytime you want to let it out, just come to the site and write it down. You have a lot of friends and family in all of us who share in your loss. Think that your baby would want you to go on and keep the memory alive, that is how I have to look at it. You are in my thoughts and prayers, just stay strong.