Don Fournier
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Don Fournier commented on Kayla's group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
"Hi Michael I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing your partner so quickly is so devastating and brutal. I feel your struggle. As much as I hate to say this it will get better. I lost my partner of 17 years almost 3 years ago and I now can look…"
Jul 19, 2016
Don Fournier commented on Kayla's group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
"Hi Eric Take comfort that your partner didn't want you to see him died. My partner passed away in his sleep, in his own bed, in our home.... Just the way he wanted. He was so fearful of dying in a hospital bed. He waited for me to come home…"
Aug 15, 2015
Don Fournier replied to Isaac's discussion Younger/Older LTR Partner's Sudden Death in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
"Hello Issac The responses that you have received from here have been spot on. There is nothing you can do but take it one day at a time. However - the best thing you are doing for yourself is reaching out to others for help. Shortly after my partner…"
Jul 23, 2015
Don Fournier replied to Mark Woolslayer's discussion I wanted to share what has happened to me in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
"Richard I also lost my partner October 2013 and I agree with every word you wrote. I have to admit I didn't want to hear "give it time and you will heal" at first because the pain was so raw. The emotions one has to go through is such…"
Mar 24, 2015
Don Fournier replied to Mark Woolslayer's discussion I wanted to share what has happened to me in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
"Mark - I am so sorry for your loss. It's not anything I would wish on anyone. I'm at the 18 month mark when I found my Nils and passed away in his sleep... peacefully thank God. It was such a shock and still is from time to time. I have to…"
Mar 15, 2015
Tony Howey and Don Fournier are now friends
Nov 29, 2014
Tony Howey left a comment for Don Fournier
"Thanks Don. I have so many emotions going on, I  cry and then I laugh and then I cry some more. I'm not sure what to do with myself anymore. My world is so empty."
Nov 29, 2014
Don Fournier left a comment for Tony Howey
"Tony I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my partner of 17 years last October. This is not an easy journey you are on but I found this group to be very helpful. Great bunch of people here who know what it's like to lose someone so close. I…"
Nov 29, 2014
Don Fournier liked Wayne Ollivier's discussion Lost and alone
Nov 12, 2014
Dennis McCormack left a comment for Don Fournier
"Don, You so aptly describe what it is like. The first time after Luis passed that I went shoppijng I was like, "I don't know how to do this!". I was dazed! And yes the empty house... We had just moved from a place we lived in for 19…"
Nov 3, 2014
Don Fournier left a comment for Dennis McCormack
"Hi Dennis This is one of the most difficult things I have ever had to deal with. I never thought that I would be living alone again at this point in my life. The house seems so big some times. I just recently went to our favorite diner for the first…"
Nov 3, 2014
Dennis McCormack left a comment for Don Fournier
"Thank you for your welcome, Don, and your kind words. It has been a little over a year since I lost my Luis, who died unexpectedly in his sleep (really the only comfort, that he didn't suffer. I'm glad you weathered the anniversary ok.…"
Nov 3, 2014
Don Fournier liked Robert Golden-Jones's discussion Lost
Oct 30, 2014
Don Fournier commented on Kayla's group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
"Lisa I've kept a journal by my bedside for a year now and every so often I go back and read what I was feeling last year. Its a helpful reminder on how well I've done coping with my loss. It doesn't take the pain away but it is a good…"
Oct 30, 2014
Don Fournier commented on Kayla's group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
"Hello Lisa I just made the 1-year without my partner. I agree with Erick - publicly I put on my best smile and deal with it the best I can. But privately I feel so alone and overwhelmed. Sometimes even the smallest things will stop me in my…"
Oct 29, 2014
Don Fournier left a comment for Dennis McCormack
"Welcome to the group Dennis. I lost my partner a year ago too. It's been a long and difficult year."
Oct 27, 2014

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At 8:09pm on November 29, 2014, Tony Howey said…

Thanks Don. I have so many emotions going on, I  cry and then I laugh and then I cry some more. I'm not sure what to do with myself anymore. My world is so empty.

At 9:26pm on November 3, 2014, Dennis McCormack said…

Don,

You so aptly describe what it is like. The first time after Luis passed that I went shoppijng I was like, "I don't know how to do this!". I was dazed! And yes the empty house... We had just moved from a place we lived in for 19 years that we loved! (Landlady sold the property--a widow herself). We moved to a smaller house with much more rent and not as nice. After going through all that stress of moving (Luis was not able to help---I had to do the whole thing), he died a month and a half after. I was stuck with a year lease in a 2 bedroom. I'm sure the landlord would have worked with me but so much going on with "post-death" stuff as you are aware and grief, I couldn't take on the added stress of moving once again. So I stuck it out there for a year even though my financial circumstances have been radically altered, and moved again to a one bedroom apt last July. STILL haven't gotten the "gumption" to even hang pictures. Much of our stuff remains in storage and I keep putting off dealing with "stuff". At least moving AGAIN forced me to scale back on his possessions and clothes, though we wore the same size mostly! Still, much of it just went into storage rather than deal with it. But being in a different place does help---something you might consider when you're ready. I used to hear Luis call my name from his bedroom (snorers) as he often did in his sleep. not sure if I was asleep or it was his spirit. very strange. Since I have moved, or maybe it's just time that has done it, but I no longer hear his voice at night---which in a way I miss but it is nice to not see that room wth him not in it--was always such a reminder. Still, as you say, there are constant reminders which are nice but sometimes make you lose it. One thing I have that is sort of comforting is a little teddy bear with a zipper and a zippered heart, holding a small bit of his ashhes---available on Amazon, if you have ashes, hair or such. Luis and I sleep together every night and watch our favorite TV shows together. :-) (Though we had separate bedrooms we would share the bed many nights). We've got to stay strong---our guys would want that

At 6:24pm on November 3, 2014, Dennis McCormack said…

Thank you for your welcome, Don, and your kind words. It has been a little over a year since I lost my Luis, who died unexpectedly in his sleep (really the only comfort, that he didn't suffer. I'm glad you weathered the anniversary ok. Luiis and I were together 20 years and were registered domestic partners. We missed the first "window" for getting married, not dreaming that the marriage right would be rescinded1 So when it became legal again in California in August of last year, we (ironically) were talking about setting a date in October the last night he was alive--we talked about how much we loved and needed each other---a beautiful evening. Little did we know he would be gone the next morning, Septeber 5. 2013. I too, like you keep wondering when I willl feel normal again. So depressed often and find I have little interest in doing anything. Been going to a psychiatrist who has given me meds but doesn't help so much. (To be true, I have struggled with depression before as has Luis). have you had the same problems  going out and doing things? Sort of like, what's the use? Thanks for letting me share. Just often feel like my life is over for the most part.

 
 
 

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