What a good looking young man, my heart goes out to you. I don't know how your son passed away but I just lost my son last month to a murder. He was murdered at work, I am not dealing well with his loss, not one minute of the day do I not think about him, I feel his pain when that animal shot him in the stomach, it makes no since. I just want my son back. He was a wonderful person who would always give to those less fortunate. I miss him so much I keep waiting for him to walk through the door.
I miss my son every single day!!
People have told me that it gets easier with time? But I really do not think it does.
Still feel so sad and empty.
This is very hard to deal with even as the time goes on.
How does a person deal with the fact that the person who killed my son has been released from jail and now could very possibly do the same thing to some one else's family? The laws for drunk drivers are not right. Six mths in jail is not near long enough for hitting my son and killing him. I am very confused.
Dear Doraine when I read your post I must say I felt your pain. My son Joe was killed by a 38 year old drunk driver April 5, 2010. The drunk was a hit and run but he was tracked down and put in jail/However, he was released in about a week on the day we buried our son Joe. It's coming up on 4 years April 2014 and the driver driver who is now the age my son Joe was when he took his life is walking free after almost 4 years. I believe that because I have many other issues to contend with since that time eventually the case will come to trial when my husband and I are strong enough to be there representing our son Joe's life. He was a worthwhile individual who was loved by many. Joe had a good sense of humor and a real humanitarian who took care of his grandmother. My mother's anniversary of her passing was just the other day. It was very difficult on my mother and every one who knew him. I do understand where you are coming from. The end result for any mother who loses a child is the same; live changes forever. However, we are in the same category as a senseless act committed by a drunk driver is enough to just scream. Oh I've screamed and cried morning, noon and night. However, for the most part I didn't allow people to see it. When you need to cry do it in the privacy of your home or anywhere you feel like it. I use to talk with people all the time and then show them my son Joe's photo. I liked all the compliments of men, women, young girls and even young men say how handsome or how good looking he was in the photo. I always show his high school graduation photo. That's how I still see him. I've noticed that when I go out shopping I'm not looking to speak with people so that I can show off his photo and get their sympathy and sincere condolences. Nonetheless, it has been a difficult road and I even went to a bereavement group but left. A woman was there for the loss of her second deceased husband. Then when she began to moan about her son who was an alcoholic I couldn't take. She was enabling the piece of garbage and I never attended another meeting.
I can say one thing to help you and that is to continue doing whatever you did before your life changed. That's did and it helped but it was still a long road. The road sometimes has a light but I know that my son Joe isn't going to be coming to visit us physically. I can tell you more but I really need to get myself relaxed as I have a meeting at my garden club tomorrow. It's really late because I had to do some baking for the meeting and get other things ready and clean up. If you want to talk just click on my name and it will bring you directly to my page.