Estil Canterbury
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Loss of a Grandchild - Healing Arms

A support group for grandparents coping with the double whammy - the loss of a grandchild, and the loss of their own child's innocence.
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"Let's work toward the common goal of transforming our lives just as our deceased loved ones transformed theirs."
Dec 1, 2012
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Healing Grief

I believe that grief is the other side of love. When our loved one is alive we express our love in a multitude of ways. We do not automatically stop loving, or stop wanting to love our loved one when he or she dies. So what do we do with all that love? We grieve. Grief is a plethora of feelings, but at the bottom of it, it is unexpressed/unrequited love. Mourning, or as I like to say Good Mourning, is a conscious decision to go towards grief with the intention of sharing it. Fundamentally,…See More
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Loss of a Grandchild - Healing Arms

A support group for grandparents coping with the double whammy - the loss of a grandchild, and the loss of their own child's innocence.
Apr 18, 2012
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Loss of a Grandchild - Healing Arms

A support group for grandparents coping with the double whammy - the loss of a grandchild, and the loss of their own child's innocence.
Apr 15, 2012
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Loss of a Grandchild - Healing Arms

A support group for grandparents coping with the double whammy - the loss of a grandchild, and the loss of their own child's innocence.
Nov 17, 2011
Kalyn replied to Estil Canterbury's discussion The Misconceptions about Grief in the group Loss of a Grandchild - Healing Arms
"Hello Estil, It has been another long week with my daughter. She, once again, went into labor and they had to stop it. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster and am, quiet simply, ready to get off and take a breath! After they let her come home…"
Aug 18, 2010
Estil Canterbury replied to Estil Canterbury's discussion The Misconceptions about Grief in the group Loss of a Grandchild - Healing Arms
"Hi Kalyn I am sorry it has taken me a few days to get back with you. Frankly, your circumstance was so dramatic and traumatic that I had to think about it before I responded. I can't imagine what you are going through. Your grand child died…"
Aug 9, 2010
Estil Canterbury and Kalyn are now friends
Aug 9, 2010
Estil Canterbury left a comment for Kalyn
"Thank you for thinking of us. We placed a balloon at her grave site and re-mulched the area around her stone. Peace, Estil"
Aug 9, 2010
Kalyn left a comment for Estil Canterbury
"Estil, Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you all today and sending many loving thoughts and prayers to your family. Much love!"
Aug 8, 2010

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Please join my group - Loss of a Grandchild/Healing Arms

I am a graduate student in Counseling Education seeking a master's degree in Community Counseling. I am currently completing my internship at Mercy St. Vincent Children's Hospital as part of the Maternal Child Pediatric Palliative Care Team. My specialty is anticipatory grief counseling and bereavement counseling. I am also working under supervision at The Mercy Family Care Center in the OB clinic performing counseling duties. In my 'past life,' I was a professor of philosophy.
I counsel families who have lost a child due to miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death. In addition, I counsel families who have lost a child due to parental neglect, suicide, or abuse. These deaths are often disenfranchised because society rarely "allows" for "real" mourning because parents and families are blamed for these deaths. Personally, I found that the loss of a grandchild is also disenfranchised. Grandparents are usually so busy helping their children that they forget about themselves, and society is all to happy to oblige this attitude. But a grandparent's grief is just as important, equally traumatizing, and more often than not, complicated, because it is not "allowed" or there is no time. But we MUST make time - for our health and for our children's health.

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Healing Grief

Posted on December 1, 2012 at 11:10pm 0 Comments

I believe that grief is the other side of love. When our loved one is alive we express our love in a multitude of ways. We do not automatically stop loving, or stop wanting to love our loved one when he or she dies. So what do we do with all that love? We grieve. Grief is a plethora of feelings, but at the bottom of it, it is unexpressed/unrequited love. Mourning, or as I like to say Good Mourning, is a conscious decision to go towards grief with the intention of sharing it. Fundamentally,…

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At 8:22am on August 8, 2010, Kalyn said…
Estil,
Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you all today and sending many loving thoughts and prayers to your family. Much love!
At 8:36am on July 1, 2010, Kathle Kaiser said…
It has been 10 years since my grandson died at the age of 2 3/4 and some days are no better than when it first happened. It's a grief that's very hard to deal with. It's unfair for him and devastating to the people he left behind.
At 12:17pm on April 18, 2010, Carrie L said…
Hello My name is carrie are you researching grief.? This is my first experience and it is not good .
 
 
 

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