Florence Isaacs is a freelance journalist and author whose books include My Deepest Sympathies, When the Man You Love Is Ill and Just a Note to Say...The Perfect Words for Every Occasion.
In her new monthly blog for LegacyConnect, Florence – a widow herself – offers advice to bereaved spouses and partners. Widow in the World is Florence's second blog for LegacyConnect. She also writes Sincere Condolences in which she offers tips on writing thoughtful sympathy notes and answers questions about condolence and eulogy writing, funeral etiquette and more.
If you have a question for Florence, please email her at email@example.com.
Q. My husband died a few months ago, and I've got a pile of sympathy cards and notes to respond to, not to mention messages posted on the funeral home website and elsewhere online. He knew a lot of people. Do I have to write to everyone, and how much time do I have to do it? I feel overwhelmed.
Responding to expressions of sympathy has always been a monumental task for widows. It's hard enough to put one foot in…Continue
Q. A friend of mine, a widow like myself, volunteers at a soup kitchen every year at holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas. I’m thinking of joining her, but I’ve never volunteered before. What do you think?
A Chinese proverb advises, “If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else.” I’ve found that to be true and I know many other widows who have added meaning to their lives through volunteer…Continue
Q. Why don’t people remember the anniversary of my husband’s death? Even my husband’s sister and brother don’t seem to be aware of it or mark it in any way. It bothers me that he’s forgotten. What are your thoughts?
My "take" is that this is a very private anniversary — and when others forget the date it does not mean they are forgetting your husband — or you. Sometimes people think mentioning the subject would…Continue
Q: I find that my relationships with some couple friends have changed dramatically since I’ve been widowed. In some cases, I’ve been dropped entirely from their social calendar; in others the wife is available for lunch or dinner only during the week and only alone. Is there…Continue