George - this is a good place for healing - everybody here has gone through or is going through what you've gone through and will go through. There aren't many support groups out there, and fewer still for the gay and lesbian community. There are so many stages, so much you go through mentally and physically, it's easy to stall into a rut, and healing is a tough process in itself. I think you'll find the folks in this group supportive and reinforcing; none of us should have to go through this alone. For me, this site and these fellow "club members" helped tremendously.