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Posted on June 24, 2009 at 5:37pm 0 Comments 0 Likes

My youngest son took hsis own life at the end of March, we were managing to get through the devastation, whilst still going ahead with our daughters wedding. The wedding was last weekend now I feel that I have regressed so far back I am at step one again!!!!

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At 9:07pm on May 30, 2010, Carrie L said…: hi Gill sorry for all this pain. it is there for all of us and it helps a little as stupid as it sounds that we are writing to people we don't know but do know... i don't think i will ever be better. i had so many plans and like you thought there would be a tomorrow. i wish there were. i want to make it better for the other children and i think since we are changed it will be better for them. the councelor said the best thing you can give your kids is happiness and truth. unfortunately i did not give my son the happiness he deserved. and i wish i could change things. please feel free to write and chat and escape by knowing others are like you unfortunately Carrie L

At 9:18pm on May 4, 2010, SUE said…: Gill
Im so so sorry. It is natural to feel you are at step one again because you probably are. I wish there was an easy answer as to how to survive the unimaginable...some have equated this kind of struggle to that of a holocaust survivor. Im not sure but I do know it took me a great amount of time and reading and writing until I was just spent. In the end I saw my doctor for the things I could not control. Baby steps Gill this is a very long journey.
Sue

At 11:42am on February 15, 2010, Margie-Kenny's Mom said…: Dear Gill,

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my 25 year old son 11/2/2008 and I completely understand your pain. I didn't see it coming either and I struggle to keep it together daily. I have 3 other children and I know they need me but the weight of this grief is so hard to bear. I do think in time we slowly learn to live with our loss. We are changed forever, I hope in a good way. I think I have become a kinder person because I understand pain now in a very personal way and it gives me more compassion for others. So I send big hugs to you and know that you are not alone.

At 7:14pm on May 3, 2009, Gill said…: My son of 22 years took his own life 5 weeks ago. He was the youngest of three of the most amazing children a mother could wish for. What went wrong?, Why did this happen, Why didn't I see it coming> How am I supposed to carry on?