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I'm Kaite. Im 17 years old, and lost my dad on december 30th 2008, He was 52 years old. Well this is my story;; about two to three months before he passed we went to his doctor were he was diagnosed with prostate cancer,his doc. said "bob ill give you three choices to get rid of it or you can choose to do nothing with the consiquence of only having 2 to 10 years left in his life", well my dad being as hard headed as he was; decided not to take any of the doc's choices. Two months later my dad died of a Massive Heart Attack. Unexpected. The worst parts about it are this, Well my mom moved back down here after living in nebraska for a year (for her personal issues), She came a week before christmas of 08' which was two weeks before the death of my dad. Anyways, So Five days after christmas He passed.(great present huh?) yea right. Try the worst day of my life. And to make things worse, he died on a tuesday well the sunday before that he came to duette fl. were i was with my boyfriend. about 15 mins from bradenton were me and my dad lived, he came out and spent some time with us for a little bit and left, later that night i talked to him in text's telling him i loved him and he said something that made me think he committed suicide, which was this: "bug i just wanted to tell you that im sorry if i wasnt the best father I could be and i hope that i made you as proud as i could." and i told him he was the best dad any girl could ever ask for. Anyways, so monday I tried calling him & calling him on the house phone and cell, i also tried texting him, and never got a reply. My mom also went by our house and tried to get him to answer; and the weirdest thing is that the truck and motorcycle were both there but the door was locked, and he wasn't answering the door. (By the way: i was still in duette with my boyfriend, his bestfriend kasey, and my friend koda.) So i was freakin by Monday night. Well tuesday mornin' around ten o'clock the four of us (above^) left duette and headed to my dad and I's house to see why he wasn't answering the door for my mom and the phone for me and her. So i talked to my mom and grandpa on my way to town, & my mom asked me if i got to the house before her and my papa not to go inside until they were there. So they got there and i unlocked the front door, and there was my dad, layin in front of the door. Well i didn't know at that point if he was alive or not, so we called the cops. Well I took off and ran down the road where my boyfriend colt later came and got me. I seriously thought i just died inside. Well Im not trying to go to far and if I did sorry, I just want to find someone to talk to & relate too. So i figure if i tell my story you'll get a better grip on my life. Well feel free to write back/reply. Thanks for stopping by(: -kaitee ;]

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Posted on April 16, 2010 at 1:00am 1 Comment 0 Likes

Hi I'm Kaite, I am new to LegacyConnect, and would like to find someone to talk and relate too. I Signed up for LegacyConnect because i lost my dad december 30th 2008. Well if your interested in making a good friend and always having someone to talk too just write me, I'll be around. If I dont get to you right away dont panic I'll be sure to check up often. Well I cant wait to meet some new people and relate to people that are either going thru or have lost a parent. TTYL(:

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At 12:12am on May 9, 2010, melissa Jackson altmyer said…: Dear katie,

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. It seems you and I are in similar situations. My father died Christmas eve 2008. The Police found him on Ocean Park beach in New London, Ct. The cause of his death was still undetermined even after an autospy, Which leaves me left to wonder what happened to him everyday. He was only 56 years old, and I was 29 at the time and just had my first child. I can totally relate when you wrote about "great Christmas Present." My whole world was shattered that Christmas eve night. I was so close to my father and still grieve daily. I am so sorry that you had to see your dad laying there in his house. It must have been so hard. Your dad died just 6 days after my dad. I never got to even see his body since i live on the other side of the country. He had made it clear he wanted to be cremated, so I got his ashes in the mail. That was the hardest thing to handle. I still have his ashes on my mantle, and don't know what to do with them. He never told me where he wanted to be scattered. I just want to let you know I am here to talk and be a support to you katie. I am so sorry you had to lose your father at such a young age. It is very hard, and having a friend to talk to online really helps. Hope we can keep in touch. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Hope you are getting some grief counseling too. It helps even though its a long process. Hope to hear from you.
Melissa

At 7:55am on May 2, 2010, Carrie L said…: Hi Kaitee I am sorry for your loss. I saw your post to Virginia and thought I would write to you too. You must be so alone without your soulmate your dad my daughter is very close to her dad and I really like that. my sons are also except now one is gone and we cannot show him we love him anymore. he needed it more than i would admit and i wish i were as close to him as you were to your dad. i wish i could comfort you. but i need to comfort my other children I have raised them so independent they think they don't need help everyone needs help. and that is what is wrong with our society. we all need eachother. i am here to talk to you. I wish we could have them back. I don't know your loss as you don't know mine. my parents are still here. and this loss of my child. is stupid. like yours one more day would have been better but a lifetime would have been better yet love to you Carrie L

At 8:09am on April 22, 2010, Dee said…: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. You are so young to be going through this. It's hard to reach out for help, but I'm glad your putting your grief into words at least here. I hope you can find some local counseling in your church or community. Please continue to talk to people about it. It's hard enough to deal with the death of loved one when you are older, much less as young as you are. My mother lost her father at 17, and I don't think delt with it directly, thus affecting her life in many aspects. God bless you on this difficult journey, and know that your Dad still loves you and is caring for you from above.

At 5:06am on April 19, 2010, Virginia said…: Hi katie, I'm also new to the site and I lost both my parents when i was 15 for my dad and 17 when my mom passed and a fience inbetween them. many years have passed since and truelly thought I'd never get on with life. this past april I lost my husband and this is very diffucult to get over we were together 32 years so I am also looking for someone to talk with age doesn't matter. we all are here for the same reason, so god bless you and give you strenth. write back anytime Virginia

At 1:35am on April 17, 2010, mommax4boys said…: Katie I am sorry to hear about your dad. It's always so sad to lose a parent. My dad died of cancer when I was 25. Really sad he did not get the see all his grandkids.