Harold McKinstry
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Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara Sorry to hear about your friend Steve, I haven't had to go to a Funeral yet but sure it will bring back a flood of Memories. I have been in Hospital a couple of times, it brings stuff back to me. That's a nice way to look at it that…"
May 4
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha  I agree with what everyone says that family hurts most of all. If someone I barely know says something stupid, I brush it off I don't care what they think. When someone says something stupid like that I try to tell myself there…"
Apr 26
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve Sorry for all the crap you have gone through being gay. I had a favorite Uncle that was gay, my parents bought only Neapolitan Ice Cream. My uncle was from New York, the first thing he did when he visited was go to Mooneys and get us 2 half…"
Apr 26
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Chuck  Nice Letter to Larry, you said what a lot of feels but have a hard time putting into words. Diane knew the way to look through my different faces for different situations and see the real me also. My Sister is a going through a Divorce,…"
Apr 21
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha and Everyone I am doing better, I have a good relationship with my Stepdaughters, and my Grandsons and Father in Law. They have told me how much they appreciate keeping them in my Life. It helps me and them to get through Diane's loss,…"
Apr 17
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha   Glad to hear Tootsie doing better, we did the same thing with Diane's dog paid for surgery. They couldn't do anything for her but at least we knew we did everything we could. Debbie  Glad to hear your still smoke free,…"
Apr 17
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane  I have always felt comfortable discussing anything on here. Never seen anyone pass judgement or give a hard time for what they posted.  Please tell us about the sign you have received. Two or three days after the Funeral I went…"
Apr 9
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane  I have always felt comfortable discussing anything on here. Never seen anyone pass judgement or give a hard time for what they posted.  Please tell us about the sign you have received. Two or three days after the Funeral I went…"
Apr 9
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha Sorry to hear about Tootsie prognosis. We had to go through that with Diane's dog Roxie. She said she knew I was okay because Roxie didn't like men very well, but took to me right away. They suspected tumors, did Surgery they were…"
Apr 8
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha Ill be thinking of you and your Dog, I would have have a harder time without my 2 little spoiled rotten dogs by my side. I have had head cold since I got back from California, whenever I sneeze Sadie comes running over to see if I'm…"
Apr 5
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Chuck I liked your comment about being a grieving widow or widower doesn't have to define our total existence. I have of course heard that before but never really stopped to think about it. Sometimes it's easy to fall into that rut,…"
Apr 3
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi All Just got back yesterday, had a great time. Felt weird going on a vacation without Diane, felt a little guilt but  I know she wouldn't want me sitting around giving up on life. I wouldn't want that for her either if roles were…"
Mar 29
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi All I have been taking a little of everything and have been trying to incorporate it in my life. Deb I have been trying to slow my mind and body down also to adjust to life's new reality. Like it or not it's what I have to work with,…"
Mar 20
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Tiffany Two months isn't very long sorry for your loss and the pain of it. I have staid in our house, lots of reminders of Diane, not quite as painful as it used to be. It's been over a year I haven't done anything with her clothes,…"
Mar 14
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha YOU GO GIRL. Keep us informed we can live out our dating stuff through you. If nothing else should be entertaining. maybe you can write a book about it along with Chuck. Doesn't hurt to try something new, don't know how it will work…"
Mar 11
Harold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha YOU GO GIRL. Keep us informed we can live out our dating stuff through you. If nothing else should be entertaining. maybe you can write a book about it along with Chuck. Doesn't hurt to try something new, don't know how it will work…"
Mar 11

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At 6:34am on January 19, 2017, Kathy Majewski said…

Hello Harold:  Learning how to use this website!  Yes I live in Michigan, at my mailing address is Niles.  I go home Sunday, I've been in Florida visiting my son and his family.  Knowing I could move anywhere I want, I think anywhere out of the cold and snow would be great.  I have a lot to deal with when I get home.  Downsizing is one of them, after taxes and end of year work.  I know it will be hard to walk into my "our" home again but I have to face it.  It seems like the days are going so slowly and that's such a change from how fast I thought it was going.  I fade in and out of my new reality.  Being out of my familiar territory with it's memories has helped but life goes on.  

At 5:12am on January 17, 2017, Kathy Majewski said…

Thank you Harold.  I know that grieving is something that isn't spoken about and not understood until it happens.  My husband and I used to visit in the living room each morning and he'd say, "you know, one of us will be left."  Saying it and reality are two different things.  I feel like my life exploded the day he died.  It's coming back together,slowly.  I think this website will be assuring and helpful.  

At 5:03pm on December 11, 2016, Gigi W said…

Harold, I love your ornament, where did you get it? I miss David so much but always feel better after visiting this page. I feel reassurred I am not losing my mind. Yesterday was 20 months for me and there are still days that my grief overwhelms me. I don't write much but appreciate every sentiment written. I hope you have a good holiday season.

At 7:08pm on September 12, 2016, Melinda CANDACE Guinn said…

Thank you Harold. The only thing that consoles me is I believe in God. I think He saved them all. God brought them Home before worse things could happen to them. As much as I miss them, I think God saved them! I know we'll be reunited!

At 7:58pm on July 27, 2016, Mary Clough said…
Aww Harold iam so very sorry for your loss, My husband was diagnosed with glioblastoma tumor, it is a very aggressive brain cancer with no cure, some people have live at the most for 5 years, but Bobs grew quickly, within 2 weeks he was paralyzed, 4 weeks he was swollen his who,e body wasn't eating, they feed him threw tubes, 6 weeks his kidneys failed and he went on Dialysis, he started having seizures, 10 weeks to the day of his diagnoses I lost him, I was soo hoping we could fight this and keep him alive for the max of 5 years, but it was not to be, now iam alone and missing him more then I could have ever imagine,I can't see this deep pain and sorrow ever going away, he was my everything. Thankyou mary
At 5:18pm on July 27, 2016, Mary Clough said…
Hi Harold, Thankyou for your very kind words, so very sorry for your loss, very over whelming, I was reading some of your comments, my husband was 18 yrs older then me, I had 22 years with him, 23 in sept. He was so very healthy, and this was such a shock. Love mary
At 9:26am on July 22, 2016, carol said…

Harold,  Thank You for your response and welcome to this site.  I am

also a flower garden lover, but alas the deer also love my flowers,  so far this month they have eaten all hostas,  lilys and numerous others. 

I hope you are having a good day today.  Happy Friday.

At 6:59pm on June 24, 2016, Reponsa Bias said…

Thanks so much for the warm welcome. I know it's doing to be a long hard row to hoe, but no one can do it for me. It's been two years yet it feels like yesterday. I awake each day praying it was only a dream I know it's not, just wishful thinking. He was real.

At 6:28pm on March 8, 2016, Sara Murphy said…

I agree.  I find it impossible to believe it will ever get better.   When people ask that dreaded question "how are you doing", I'll tell some of them I'm in a living hell.  I've also told Ken our roles have reversed since his passing, before I had to watch him suffer and now he has to watch me suffer.  I'm going to hold on to hope though that eventually, probably some day long in the future, I'll be able to see the light (either light will do)

At 4:44pm on March 8, 2016, Sara Murphy said…

Harold,  I feel as you do with the deep, never ending grief.  I'm only 2 weeks ahead of you, my husband passed on 1/13/16.  I contacted my doctor last week because I needed something to help.  Mornings for me are the worst.  I'm so full of anxiety but still have to get up to go to work.  With my husband here, I had strength to do anything.  However sick he was, I could handle it, take care of him, go to work etc.  I got my strength from him.  Without him, I panic over everything so afraid of what the future will hold that I'll have to deal with solo.  The anti-anxiety meds do help a bit.  I can be calmer and focus better at work but it doesn't stop me from crying for him every day, several times a day.  I pray we both find piece although I believe we're a long way from that right now.

Hugs

Sara

 
 
 

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