Im sorry that you feel noone comments back i try to comment back to everyone that i have anything in common, I would love to talk about our children it sems like when im on here talking to someone that understands me it helps me then talking to family or friends that haents been in our situation.
Jay, I'm so sorry for your lost. The people outside of our world just don't understand the pain of a parent that has lost a child, they don't mean any harm, it's just that they haven't experienced losing a child. To them it's just like losing any member of their family but, the lost of losing a child is far more deeper/worse than they could ever imagine. Jay, just know that your Legacy family know what you're going through and we're here for you anytime night/day. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and heart.
Jay, I'm so sorry for your loss. I read your post about the cancer. None of us knows why our children died before us but maybe this post you made to warn other women(I know there are men on Legacy but even they could tell their wives or sisters), maybe this is the reason that your were spared. I think of how God's ways are not our ways. That really hurts sometimes in every area of our lives. But there may have been that one person that read your post that needed to hear it. I believe we are all here for each other at Legacy. Our grief is obviously shared but if we can pass on some info that could spare a life then we have blessed others in our grief. I have found, in my grief, that reaching out to help others has helped me go on after my son's death. I'll be praying for you. Hugs of Hope, Kathy
I lost my son June 09. He was my only son. People don't see to want to see or feel my pain or your pain...unless you've lost a child nobody has any idea how horrible and deep the pain is. I'll never get over losing my boy... I'll grieve him til I see him. I breathe in, I breathe out, I put one foot in front of the other, I exist I no longer live... that was my baby..
Jay I feel the pain trust me in 16 more days Nov 16th my baby boy Daniel will be taken away from me his birthday was last Fri Oct 22 he would of been 23 he was killed in a car accident 3 weeks after his 21st birthday didn't fullfill his dreams on becomming a NFL play maybe to the colts or Rams he was also a fulltime college student studing criminal justice a young man so kind and beautiful at heart at first i was in shock and then i just felt like he was away at college 3hrs away from he would come home to visit at least once or twice a month it depending during football seasone and work and school. The last time i saw my son was Oct 26th 2008 his birthday weekend we had a blast he invited a few friends from school we partied like college kids do man i couldn't keep up with them this profile picture is me and Daniel that was one of my last kiss i got from him i wish i could of held him one last time Daniel is my first born and the love of my life plus my other son Michael Daniel was texting and driving when his car left the side of the road and hit a 9ft tree stump and was ejected and died on the scene so he felt no pain thank god iam glad my son did not suffer' but i miss him so much ive been crying all that week of his birthday i finally realize he is gone but he is with me spitiually i feel he is ok with God i miss him him like crazy i need one of his big huggs I just think what a joy he gave me and all those good memries we shared we were best friends we can talk about anything i was so honored to have been his mother. we need to keep in touch all us parents who have lost their child we are not alone even tho we feel like that sometimes'once again iam so sorry for your lose may God bless U and your family. Lisa Daniel's mom
Hi,Jay.I am so sorry for your lost.But I feel like you did very often and my sweet angel left me 8 years ago.Grief has different faces,give a time but you never get over it just learn how live with it .XOXOXO
jay, i cant even remember what it was when i was at the 10th week. i still cant remember so much. saturday is the 1 yr anniv and i am so sad. i want to curl up and die so i can be with my baby. take care, go to grief counseling. love , val
Hi Jay so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby boy I know how you feel. i am crying also. this site is good and it is bad. I think we are trying to get our grief out.... just reading your story reminds me of me and my son. and now what????I am glad he was alive that I gave him life. I found a few poems early on that gave me some comfort. I don't know if I can put my hands on them now but i need to find them. man what sucks more than this.??? i am sorry i am breaking down while writing this as we all do I think we want to suffer as much as our children did .... I don't know. Carol told me that she donates books in his name. with her sons dates on a plack she wanted me to do something for others. well .... we need to talk that is obvious it is just painful at times... much of the time... Carrie L
jay- thank you for your sweet note. i am so thankful you are cancer free. i too, had a melanoma in 1981 and have also been cancer free and for that, i feel blessed. i am just so sad , i cant think straight and i am just too focused on the upcoming anniv. i keep trying to remember the last days of this time last year and cant remember much. in fact. most of this past year, i dont remember much at all. jay, i am thinking of you and keeping you and your family in my prayers. hugs, val