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At 6:14pm on December 20, 2010, Diamond said…: Hello Jane,

Loosing a love one - we can never say we will totally get over having that person missing from our lives - it is normal to grieve the absence of the one or ones we love who have passed away. Joy should come from the endearing memories we have of the one we held so close to our heart and yet had to move on.

Our love ones will always be in our heart even when they are not there. We can also seek so much comfort from the scriptures. Romans 15:4. Also, the promise that Almighty God has placed for all mankind without the fear of death. Revelation 21:3,4 - God who can not lie will bring about better conditions for mankind under his rulership. (Daniel 2:44). So, our love ones will have the words of God to look forward to - especially those in his memory. (John 5:28).

We know in order for us to have so much profound love for our love ones we had to have a loving creator. 1 John 4:8.

I lost my Dad and forever treasure all of the memories I have of him. Knowing that we have a loving God is what brings the biggest smile to my face. I just love knowing that God loves us. So, when you think of your love ones -know that God has them in his memory and will bring to light what he has promised all of us.

At 9:34am on February 11, 2010, Merri Jo said…: Hello Jane - I just read your posting and can very much relate to everything you said. My mom died on October 16, 2009 rather unexpectedly - she had not been in the best of health, but was doing okay. She had turned 85 in June.She fell and broke her hip on October 14 and while awaiting surgery became very ill. My sister and I were there when she died and as you, had never watched someone die. It was peaceful for her, but I find myself reliving that moment and it is so very painful. Mom raised my sister and I alone - she divorced at a very young age and neither of us are married or have children. I was mom's primary care giver the past few years as my sister lives out of town. Shortly after mom's death, I felt I had no purpose and no reason be be here any longer. Those feelings are not so strong now, but there is just so much pain and I feel so alone. Yes, there are days that are better and I think I am improving and then, bang, it all just washes over me again. I also feel guilt about things left undone, unsaid, and of times that I may have been short with her, etc. I would give anything to have her back with us again. I know all who have experienced a loss feel these same things, but sometimes the guilt is overwhelming. I know mom would not want me to feel this way and I try to remember that. I do talk to her daily and find comfort in kowing that I will one day be reunited with her. Thank you for sharing.