Jean, My heart goes out to you. I lost my oldest son, Jon, but my youngest son is 27. He's had way too many health problems for a man of his age. I worry about him a lot. I also lost an infant son, Noah, 28yrs ago. I can relate to your pain as I do everyone's here. Our stories may be different but they all ended the same. This place is a safe place to share your heart and your thoughts. Both of the sons I lost have birthdays this month, Noah would have been 29 tomorrow and Jon would have been 38 on the 27th. My Jason will be 28 on June 4. An emotional time. I'll be praying for you. Hugs of Hope,Kathy
So very sorry, Becky, for the loss of your son. I too lost my precious son, Chad, on September 4, 2009. He died at the scene of a car accident. Chad was 18 years old.
Chad had just graduated high school on June 3, 2009. On June 3, 2010, I have to be able to be there for our son, Travis, as he graduates one year to the day later than his treasured brother.
Everything is a nightmare. I can't tell you differently. The feeling of loss increases as the shock wears off.
My best advice is to talk, talk, talk. I hope you have a blanket of supporting family and friends around you. If not, please use this site and others. It is very important to speak with people who understand the all consuming anguish you and pain you are in. This can usually be done only by talking to someone who has experienced the loss of a child.
One minute, one second at a time. Take care of yourself, be good to yourself, and remember, your daughter has suffered a big loss as well.
I tell my three other children, I don't your loss, but I know its huge. I think if you show them you are only human and talk with them you give them the best gift of understanding; that you love them but this is going to take a long while.
I am so sorry about your son! My son died from a pulmonary embolis due to a clood clot in his leg on september 20, 2008. I have another son who was a senior when Jason died. His name is Kyle. Kyle was actually with Jason when he died. They were very close. It has not even been 2 years for us. All this is new to you. Just try to take one day at a time. The pain will never, ever go away but in time it will get somewhat better.