I'm still reading the Noonday Demon. It has been very interesting but I don't think I'll ever read the entire book, but I do like to jump to the chapters that interest me. I'm going to look up the chapter you mentioned. I was listening to a talk show that was debating assisted suicide and Andrew Solomon was one of the speakers on the panel. I keep thinking about what you said about finding identity, because that ultimately defines what we believe and how we make decisions in life. You told me to look up the article Mourning Ben and I did - it was very sad...
I just came back to this website and found your son's pictures - they look wonderful! I love theater and was wondering what plays he worked in.
I also noticed you said "We will find meaning and forge and identity (quoting Andrew Solomon) with these tragedies." I was wondering if you had read any of Andrew Solomon's books and what this quote means to you. Do you think something bad has to happen for us to find answers, or that we become more aware that we needed the answers all along. I have a strong belief that the Bible answers a lot of questions about life and it's meaning, Have you ever tried reading the Bible to find answers? Just some thoughts.
I'm very sorry about your son. I'm 37 years old and so I feel close in age to your son. I just want to say that I think your idea of starting a memory book is very nice and I hope that it brings comfort to you. Please remember that there is hope. John 5:28, 29 says 'Do not be amazed at this, for a time is coming when all in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.' You will get to hold your son and hug him again, talk with him, laugh with him, and share again. I hope these links are helpful.
Dear friends/strangers: My son age 30, trained actor, hard worker, loving son, grandson, nephew and brother ended his life of his own volition Sept 5, 2014. Having posthumously followed the bread crumbs to an answer, I believe he held out as long as he could. Thoughts of suicide were in multiple journal entries for better part of 10 years. This leads me to the conclusion he was a better actor off stage, we mostly saw him sunny side up. Once in awhile he would be sullen, he was very picky about who saw that side of him. He was a good person and we miss him. He had so many friends and vast interests, lively conversations, traveled well, and had a good support group of his own. Thank you for listening. Feels good to talk about him.