I can identify with many different scenarios and losing loved ones, such as my father, my only sibling/brother but losing my only child/son Joe was by far the worst. I had divorced his biological father for a number of reasons. My dreams were shattered and my world came crashing down on me at the thought of the antics this man brought in my life. I never thought I'd ever want to be with another man again. Nonetheless, I did meet someone and we were just friends and now we are married 40 years. My husband adopted my son Joe. Our son was killed when he was on his motorcycle and a drunk driver took him away from all of us who love him.
I'm concerned about you and the loss you have suffered one right after another. I hope that since you posted in March 23, 2012 that you have sought some medical help from a physician. Also, contacted a mental health provider. I went to a bereavement group but I didn't care much for it. Coming to the loss of a child is filled with a number of names that I've come to know. I would like to answer everyone but I'm rather busy. I have a mother who is rather ill and now from the hospital went to a nursing home for rehabilitation. I hope that the medicine for the arthritis in her feet work. It's just terrible. She wants to live home but I know she would be better off living in a nursing home close to my home. I can't have mom live with us for many reasons. It just wouldn't work at all.

You are young and beautiful and I know that your father and the loved one would want you to do everything you can to feel better. It's not easy but all we can do is take one step at a time. Live each moment and take a deep breath to help relax. It has helped me many times. I do other things such as hypnosis for stress and anxiety when I have time. I had purchased a CD from www.HypnosisNetwork.com

The name of the 2 CD's:  "Managing Stress and Anxiety" by Randy Gilchrist, Psy.D.

It can help as it has for me. I just wish I had more time than I do.

I may not know exactly how you feel because no one can feel what another person is experiencing. However, I do understand and know the pain of loss.

My son had a favorite quote from the bible that was a surprise to me. But it has made me feel that I need to continue doing what I did before losing him so unexpectedly. The quote is : "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

When I said this at the one bereavement group I attended for a short time the counselor said that my son was still teaching me. Yes, he taught me that it's okay to live. I would want my son to continue living life as best as he could if the situation were reversed.

Take care of yourself and reach out if you haven't already done so. If you have continue on.

With Love,

Barbara