Joanna sorry it's taken me so long to comment back to you, been going like crazy as a matter of fact I'm out here in Hawaii now with my hubby, I feel better when I'm on the go, it doesn't give me time to sit around and let my mind wounder..........I think of Andy every single day and at times it makes me sad and sometimes I let out a little laugh he was my little Prankster. So as time goes by you will do the same yes I still have my moments and being out here when I look at the clouds from the plane window he always come to mind. So just take each day as it comes..............Take Care
Joanna, I am so sorry for your loss and I do understand how you feel. It is true that others may not understand how each of us that has lost either a spouse or child feels, but we do not need their permission to grieve nor is there a time limit on grieving. Grieving is normal and different for each of us. I am fortunate to have a small family (just my brother; his wife and nephews in their 20's) and I have no children which makes it very difficult. They can never understand how I completely feel, but are most supportive as are some of my neighbors and friends. When I bump into someone who feels I should be over my grief which is now 9 months that my dear Ernie passed away I simply give them a stare and say, 'walk a mile in my shoes; come back full circle and then talk to me.' That stops them in their tracks. Dismiss it as best you can. It is also helpful to try to go to family counseling 'grief support' and hopefully some of your family will join you to try and understand. We are all here so vent away because we all have our bad days. Days of crying; being angry or simply depressed which can hit any of us at a time when we least expect it. Remember that you carry the legecy of your spouse onward so no one will ever forget him.
Thanks and we will stay in touch, my son left a note for his wife, me I talked to him fifteen minutes before he did it he just kept saying he loved me I should have known something was wrong. He wasn't his happy and cheerful self but there's nothing to do now but deal with it so stay strong sister and send me a a a message anytime you feel the need to talk.............
So very sorry that this has happened. My beloved brother's left us very much as your loved one. Your story sounds so much like ours. The pain has been real hard. My brother's wife has not been able to live in any way like before. She still cries every day. It was one year ago on October 07, 2011. The why is what we do not really understand. They were married for 27 years and had 2 sons.
Joann my prayers are with you and your girls I lost my oldest son Andy on Dec.10,2010 and my life has never been the same. I hurt everyday but I have other children that I have to be strong for and the only advice I can give you is stay strong for your children pray for God to give you strength and peace. To lose anyone is hard but your husband like my son took their own lives and you probably feel like me thinking there was something you could have done. We don't know and I still may have to seek professional help in coping with this as may you, so my sister just stay strong and take care of your girls. My son left six children and a wife behind three his and three step kids, he was only 30 yrs. old so maybe we can help each other get thru this............Be Blessed