Hi John. I loved what your friend said. I wish Homer and i could have had many more years together, but I am so thankful for the years we did have.. We didn't have the perfect relationship. What relationship is? It seemed though that most of the problems and struggles that we had resulted from our families. No it wans't perfect but it was pretty damn great! I wouldn't have missed a minute of it. I miss him so. yes he did show me unconditional love every day. If it doesn't hurt to talk your partner John what was he like? Take care.

Hi John. Thank you so much for my hug. I sure needed it!

I am so sorry for the loss of your partner. My partne Homer passed away in February. It will be five months this coming Monday. He was a sweet soft-hearted wonderful guy. We were together a little over 30 years. I can't even put into words how much I miss him. I talk to him also several times a day.It does help some. Please write anytime. I am sending you a hug also.

Not to worry about me and my loss .... I'm over the worst of it but you are at the beginning.  You're probably going to feel like doing nothing.   (If you have a job it might be a bit easier with something to "keep you busy").  Being retired I was just spending hours wandering through the house.   The dishes and laundry piled up plus none of the general housekeeping got done.   I needed to add to that list the sorting of all of Mike's personal "stuff"....and he was a definite pack rat.  After about 4 weeks of this, I decided at least some of the things get done around the house.  Got the laundry and dishes done and I hit a couple of the floors with a dust mop.  Sorting his stuff started out easy ... he was an only child and both his parents had already passed--so things like his grade school report cards, concert ticket stubs, etc.etc.etc. were easy to pitch .... and then I would stumble across a long-forgotten birthday card or valentine that we had sent to each other--nothing more got done until I decided I seriously needed to sort the things between "pitch" and "keep".  

Between all of that, I decided I needed something "new" to get/keep my mind off of things.   I volunteered to work the concession stand at an outdoor community theater.   Been sort of hot doing that--but the work is easy, I get to meet all kinds of new people, and (a REAL bonus!) I get to see the shows for free!    I seriously recommend that you think about doing something different like that down the road.  It works wonders filling up some of the voids inside. 

Be strong, my friend.   It's not easy--but neither is it impossible. 

**HUGS**

David

John:

So nice of you to write. I feel the pain of you losing your partner. It is absolutely devastating. The only "gold" lining for me is that, although I wasn't physically here, given her heart condition, the aneursym burst happened quickly. In contrast, my brother and I have just put my 89-year old Mom into assisted living, now in the same building where my 91-year old Dad is confined to a wheelchair. Thank God, my partner helped me develop patience and compassion. One step at a time, my friend! A friend gave me a wonderful poem written by Conan Henry Scott-Holland and that has helped, as has carrying on with the plans for life that we had.

Nanc

John:

So nice of you to write. I feel the pain of you losing your partner. It is absolutely devastating. The only "gold" lining for me is that, although I wasn't physically here, given her heart condition, the aneursym burst happened quickly. In contrast, my brother and I have just put my 89-year old Mom into assisted living, now in the same building where my 91-year old Dad is confined to a wheelchair. Thank God, my partner helped me develop patience and compassion. One step at a time, my friend! A friend gave me a wonderful poem written by Conan Henry Scott-Holland and that has helped, as has carrying on with the plans for life that we had.

Nanc

John:

So nice of you to write. I feel the pain of you losing your partner. It is absolutely devastating. The only "gold" lining for me is that, although I wasn't physically here, given her heart condition, the aneursym burst happened quickly. In contrast, my brother and I have just put my 89-year old Mom into assisted living, now in the same building where my 91-year old Dad is confined to a wheelchair. Thank God, my partner helped me develop patience and compassion. One step at a time, my friend! A friend gave me a wonderful poem written by Conan Henry Scott-Holland and that has helped, as has carrying on with the plans for life that we had.

Nanc

John:

So nice of you to write. I feel the pain of you losing your partner. It is absolutely devastating. The only "gold" lining for me is that, although I wasn't physically here, given her heart condition, the aneursym burst happened quickly. In contrast, my brother and I have just put my 89-year old Mom into assisted living, now in the same building where my 91-year old Dad is confined to a wheelchair. Thank God, my partner helped me develop patience and compassion. One step at a time, my friend! A friend gave me a wonderful poem written by Conan Henry Scott-Holland and that has helped, as has carrying on with the plans for life that we had.

Nanc

John:

So nice of you to write. I feel the pain of you losing your partner. It is absolutely devastating. The only "gold" lining for me is that, although I wasn't physically here, given her heart condition, the aneursym burst happened quickly. In contrast, my brother and I have just put my 89-year old Mom into assisted living, now in the same building where my 91-year old Dad is confined to a wheelchair. Thank God, my partner helped me develop patience and compassion. One step at a time, my friend! A friend gave me a wonderful poem written by Conan Henry Scott-Holland and that has helped, as has carrying on with the plans for life that we had.

Nanc