Hi Julie, it's truly hard when our loved one passed away. I loss a brother almost five years ago in a accident. My family barely talked about what happen coz were still in shocked. One thing I can share is life would be so hard for us if we didn't know about hope that the Bible tell us. I wanna share a scripture that comfort us and I hope it comforts you too. It's from John 5:28,29 it mentions that "all in the memorial tombs will come out." it's comforting to know that soon I'll see my brother again. Reading the Bible helps me cope with the loss.
Thank you for your kind words, Julie. Dad's passing is recent - May 7, 2011. I had spent 3 days at their house caring for him. My Mom had been caring for him on her own. He was in Hospice but their hands on help amounted to about 1 hour per day. I hated seeing my self-sufficient, fiercely independent father so helpless. I felt truly blessed and honored to be able to care for him. For my technical skills in caring, I have to give credit to my son. He's been totally disabled his entire life - 9 1/2 years. The technical aspect of caring was not new to me but the emotional part was. Once I had my initial tears and grieving my first day - I jumped into action and did whatever I could to make him feel comfortable and loved. My Mom said I got bossy. Guess it's what needed when you have a room full of people who don't understand the importance of caregiving. My Dad's sis-in-law once commented to me that she felt honored to care for my grandmother in last days. At the time I thought that was nice and so very special. I now totally understand what she was saying & feeling. I too feel honored that in my Dad's last days here on earth, I gave him the best care I could. I've been fighting with anger the last week or so. I want to blame someone - anyone. My mind knows that there is no blame to lay, but my heart totally disagrees.
I have sought out information, help and support from many areas. This site in addition to books and now a counseling session with my local hospice will be so very helpful in learning how to continue with my life. I know my son and my husband need me too - I just feel as if I could have done more to help my parents. Illogical yes, but there's that disagreeing heart again.
Thank you again for your note - I look forward to getting to know you and sharing and helping as much as I can.
Thank you for keeping us in your prayers.I have 4 children that just don't understand anything and for me tryig to cope with it myself and stay strong for them. Ijust got onto this website and hope it will help,at least talking with other people that .know what I am going through. My two younger boys don't know how their father passed away and I am not looking forward to it.I just take it day by day and put it in the Lords hands...Kim