Thank you June.. With places such as this one, where we can cherish the memory of our mothers, they truly can live forever.They are in our hearts and minds every single day... In your troubled times look within yourself , your mother is there...
That's exactly how we felt so much pressure to make decisions, one minute we were forced to think about planning her funeral then forced to search for a suitable long term care facility. All in all, it sounds like we both were on a "fast track", I have had to take time off of work and school to get me together because i feel so lost. I truly believe no matter what you think, you can't really prepare to loss your mother. A mother's love has a beginning but no ending. Now, I've been sitting on this couch for 4 days now, i know i need to get up and get back into the swing of things but have no energy. We have such a similar situation!!! Thanks for sharing your story and if you ever need to talk please don't hesistate.
Nothing is simple anymore. Everything has special meaning now. Tomorrow will be 2 months and I still can't accept it. My 4 year old nephew and I spent the afternoon at her house, playing with my new puppy (I ache everywhere) and the house still smells like her. She should be in her recliner watching CNN.
In response to your last message.... You are definitely right about having to mourn in your own time and in your own way. Dealing with the loss of a loved one, especially a mother, is not exactly a science. People may never realize the void that is left in your life. You've essentially lost the person who has been a part of your life the longest. That alone is tramatic. Speaking from experience, mourn how you mourn and don't let anyone tell you to "get over it" or tell you that its about time that you move on.... You're experiencing a whole new life now. The life you knew is no longer, and that takes time to adjust to. The near future is going to be somewhat of a rollercoaster, but trust me, you'll make it. Just take one day or I'll even go so far to say one minute at a time. Coping will ease, but the loss will forever remain. Again, Im here if you need to talk. (firstname.lastname@example.org)
I lost my sweet father on July 28, 2009 and I wish I could say something to help you, but my experience is that nothing can truly help you.
Everyone told me that time will ease the pain, but that wasn't even true; it only makes the pain bareable because we finally realize that our loved one's love for us is still intact and we start to cherish the time we were blessed to share with them.
Going through the stages of grief was the most challenging experience I ever had and there were times when I wanted to die, but for no other reason than to be reunited with my Dad.
I am so sorry for your loss. The array of emotions are completely overwhelming and debilitating. You are doing the right thing by reaching out to people who have been in a similar situation.