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Book Review: 'The Year of Magical Thinking'

“You sit down to dinner and life as you know it ends.” So begins Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking, the National Book award winning memoir that chronicles the dev… Continue

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Book Review: 'The Mercy Papers'

Robin Romm’s mother was diagnosed with cancer the summer after Robin’s freshman year in college. Nine years later, Robin quit her graduate program at Berkeley to stay home with her dying mother. In The Mercy Papers: A Memoir of Three Weeks, Romm recalls the end of her mother’s life, peppering… Continue

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Book Review: 'The Grieving Child' by Helen Fitzgerald

When a doctor informed Helen Fitzgerald that her husband was dying from cancer, he discouraged her sharing the diagnosis with the patient. This also meant not telling her… Continue

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Book Review: 'The Suicide Index' by Joan Wickersham

“This is what my father did,” writes Joan Wickersham early in her memoir The Suicide Index: Putting My Father’s Death in Order. “He got up, showered, shaved and dressed for work. He went downstairs and made a pot o…

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At 9:58am on January 10th, 2009, eric hipple said…: April 9th 2000 Jeff Hipple left us by taking his life , MY only son and 15 years old . The illness depression is a killer . finding a way free of pain can be so confusing ....let's help those like him find a different way.

At 8:50am on January 10th, 2009, P1ROSE2 said…: AROUND 7:20 PM ON MONDAY JULY 21, 2008 I LOST MY HUSBAND AND I STILL AM HAVING A HARD TIME GETTING THROUGH THIS...I 'VE GOTTEN WHERE I DRINK ALOT AFTER WORK AND ON MY DAYS OFF....I LISTEN TO ALOT OF THE MUSIC HE USE TO SING TO ME AND I CRY AND SOMETIMES WONDER WHY HE HAD TO GO.........

At 4:19pm on January 2nd, 2009, Dianne Hardy said…: On august 10th, 2008 I lost my only son to a tragic hunting accident. He was 35. We expect our children to oulive us, to go further and to be happier than we were. Whatever the cause of an early death of a child NO parent can find it easy to handle. We search every where to find some peace of comfort, and so far I have not found it. Not through my family, my church family, or any friend. I read as much as I can just to tell myself that I am not going crazy. I read somewhere, that when you lose you spouse, you become a widow or widower, when you lose you parents you become an orphan, but when you loss your child there is not a name for it . It is just that bad! In life the beginning is scary, the end is sad, but the middle is what really counts, How true is that. I pray for each of us that God will hold our children in his Loving Arms, until we can be there to join them. God Bless each of you, and thank you too! Dianne Hardy

At 11:03am on November 25th, 2008, James Hall said…: I lost my mother in 2003 and the pain is still with me. I know that in time or at least they say pain will go away but it doesn't.In the time since she has died the pain has eased some but it will never go away.I lost my best friend and it is at times unbearable.

At 1:17pm on October 2nd, 2008, Patti said…: my husband of 17 years kill his self because i left him he was 20 years older than me thats been 8 mos ago i still miss him and still cry when some one mentions his name i still put up a cross and baloons at the house where he died

At 3:16pm on September 18th, 2008, kristi said…: HI,MY SON WAS KILLED BY A GUN ON OCT 7TH,2006 HE WAS ONLY 16 AT THE TIME,HIS BIRTHDAY THIS YEAR WAS HARD HE WOULD OF BEEN 18 ON SEPT 12TH,2008.HE WAS SHOT BY HIS FRIEND HIS FRIEND WAS 15,HE LOADED THE RIFLE AND HE TOOK THE BULLETS OUT AND HE DIDNT COUNT THEM ALL AND HE POINTED THE GUN AT MY SON AND PULLED THE TRIGER AND THAN MY SON LIVED FOR ALITTLE BIT GOT HIM TO THE HOSPITAL AND HE WAS GONE.THEY WOULDNT LET US SAY GOODBYE TO HIM BECAUSE HE WAS EVIDENTS,WE DIDNT GET TO SEE HIM TILL THEY BROUGHT HIM BACK FROM AN AUTOPSY.THE KID THAT SHOT HIM GOT 2,800 RESTITUTION,200 COMMUNITY SERVICE,PROBATION TILL HE WAS 19.AND HE IS 17 NOW.I FORGAVE HIM AND THE NURSES,AND I AM TRYING DEARLY TO FORGIVE THE DOCTOR THAT DIDNT SAVE HIS LIFE.I HAVE BEEN GOING TO CHURCH TO TRY AND FORGIVE EVERY ONE EVEN GOD,I BLAMED GOD FOR A LONG TIME TO,NOW MY FRIEND HAS ME GOING TO HER CHURCH AND I AM FEELING I AM FORGIVING GOD FOR TAKING MY SON SO YOUNG,AND I HAVENT HAD A CHANCE TO TALK TO THE DOCTOR BECAUSE HE HAS BEEN BUSY,WHEN HE SEES MY FAMILY ON THE STREET HE KEEPS SAYING SORRY,I THINK IF I HAD A CONVERSATION WITH HIM AND MAYBE HE WOULD STOP SAYING IT.BUT I MISS MY SON IT HAS BEEN ALMOST 2 YEARS, AND IT WOULD OF BEEN HIS SENIOR YEAR IN HIGH SCHOOL SO IT IS KINDA HARD.HIS FRIENDS ALL TALK TO ME AND STUFF AND IT RELIEVES SOME OF THE PAIN THAT I HAVE THAT KNOWING THEY HAVENT FORGOTTEN HIM.BUT MY PRAYERS ARE WITH ALL OF YOU THAT LOST SOMEONE.MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU.

At 7:27pm on September 17th, 2008, Roberta Costantino said…: My brother was killed in a car accident in 1981. At that time there was not internet to find coping strategies and there were definitely few books that really helped. Through the years I have wanted to help others to cope with their loss of a sibling. Therefore, I have started to write an inspirational book that is a compilation of people's stories of how they coped with their loss, what happened, and if they were able to turn this tragedy into something positive, such as helping people who are going through the same tragedy, etc. I am looking for others to share their stories with me so I can help others and give them inspiration that as difficult as it is, life does go on and positive things can happen in your life. Please send your stories or inquiries to roberta_costantino@yahoo.com so we can discuss your loss and how you can help me help others. Thank you for your support.

At 7:55pm on September 9th, 2008, Karen B said…: Just 4 weeks ago my dad passed away after a 6 week stay in the hospital. Although he had been diagnosed with alzheimers 3 years ago he was doing fairly well. Still able to drive and care for himself, although he could not tell you what he had for dinner. He lived at home with my mom. Home was just 3 doors away from me and my family. Needless to say we spent lots of time together. As his alzheimers progressed he needed me for more and more, and I was happy to be there for this man who worked hard his whole life to take care of me. He spent 25 years in the Navy and was a proud headstrong man who hated and even denied the idea that he had this terrible illness. But in me he found I think a feeling of safety and comfort, the way I used to feel when he was there with me as a child. On July 29 I convinced him to go to the hospital because he was suddenly feeling so week and tired. Little did I know what lay ahead for us. It turned out that he had a lung condition called pulminary fibrosis. Never before had he had lung problems. My mom and I were there every day for 6 weeks. He had some days that were better than others, but the bad days were indiscribable. When he was alert enough to talk to us he would ask me "why am I here" and "how did I get so sick". I really don,t think dying ever entered his mind. He just wanted to know what the plan was and how we could fix him and get him home . Every day he asked I would tell him he had a problem with his lungs and that I was talking with the doctors every day to try to figure out what to do to get him home. You see the doctors never were able to tell us for certain weather he might recover enough to leave the hospital. I feel such guilt for not being able to "fix" him. He had so much trust in me and I couldn't do this for him. The man who gave me everything, and I let him down.
I cry every day and I don't see this ending any time soon. I have never lost anyone I loved before and this pain is almost unbarable. My only comfort is knowing or hoping that with each passing day I am one step closer to once again holding his hand.

At 3:46pm on August 15th, 2008, Robyn said…: Last Sept my ex-husband & father of my boys killed himself & I blame myself. I wish the 10 yrs we were together that I was a better wife to him then maybe he would still be here. He went through real bad depression his last year on earth due to things that happened to him when he was a child. I begged him to get help & he tried but it made his sadness worse. For a year he kept saying that he was going to end his life that he could not see it getting better. I would yell at him & tell him to snap out of it, I had no idea he was so dark. He was missing for almost 2 days when they found his body hanging from a tree. How could he do that, how could he just leave his 2 little boys, didn't he love them more then this. I am so confused & hurt & miss him so much. I will always be in love with him & want him back everyday.

At 2:12pm on August 4th, 2008, In Loving Memory Of Kevin Conatty said…: On the morning of July 15 2008, I lost my fiancé of a Brain Aneurysm he was only 48 years old.. On that day, my world collapsed. I still have not come to terms with my loss. I am trying my hardest to deal with it but I don't know how I want to keep the home just the way he left it and I don't want to take off my ring I know or at least people say I need to move on but I am not ready Kevin is my only family I lost my dad 11 years ago but the pain is nothing like this my mom is still alive but we don't get along I call Kevin's cell phone just to hear his voice I try to keep my head together but it was so hard I was NOT prepared for Kevin dying Kevin death was unexpected, we did not even know he had Brain Aneurysm . He was only 48 years old, I used to fly off the handle and get upset about trivial things. You know like if the house was not clean etc. But now I feel that life is too short, and you just don't know if you are saying good night for the last time. Who cares what the house looks like now. I thought I was going to grow old that we were going to have a family he is my family nothing makes sense to me any more it is like what did I do so wrong that God had to turn my daughter and my life up side down I try to explain to my daughter that her step daddy is ok in heaven, but all I do is cry . She can not understand why I am crying if heaven beautiful & wonderful, yet I am so sad. All I tell her is that I miss Kevin and the family that we were I am scared that my life will never be better I know I will never have a man that loves me and my daughter like Kevin does I try to hold on to things like for a week this bird kept coming to my window every morning I would wake up and that bird was there I tried to believe that it was Kevin coming to me and telling me that things will get better but I really don't think I believe it I what to believe it just like I want to believe that one day when I go to heaven that I will be with him again but I don't know if that really is true either the one thing I do know is I am so unhappy and I miss Kevin more then words can even say I really am trying to be strong for my daughter but I really don't know how long I can keep this up

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