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I lost my son on Aug. 30 one day after his 32nd birthday He passed away in his sleep. But. we still don't have any answers as to why. I miss his so much. We were very, very, close. Sometimes I fe…

Posted on October 27, 2011 at 2:23am 3 Comments 0 Likes

I lost my son on Aug. 30 one day after his 32nd birthday He passed away in his sleep. But. we still don't have any answers as to why. I miss his so much. We were very, very, close.

Sometimes I feel like I am going to lose it and all I do is cry.

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At 11:25am on June 11, 2012, Phyllis Estes said…: I feel for you also, and my prayers are with you too. I wish you could have told me it gets better..but you are just being honest, and I know that. How could it get "easier" huh? They are our children..we went through labor, nursed them, raised them, taught them. God, I sometimes consider taking all my nerve pills and ending the hell. But, that is not right either. So what do we do, but go on living in the agony. It's awful!!!

Love to you,

I wish all of us on here could meet. Wouldn't that be great?

~Phyllis

At 4:59pm on June 8, 2012, Phyllis Estes said…: My friend Kate!

Thanks for responding to my post. My prayers are with you also. It hurts so much doesn't it?

Our sons were so close to the same age. Just in their prime. Seems so very unfair. Please keep in touch. We need all the friends we can get who undestand.

~Phyllis Chads Mom

At 10:13pm on January 30, 2012, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Good to hear from you....I know how hard it is the first year.....no easy way for sure. I am sorry your husband isn't hanging in there with you. The men just have such a hard time letting their feelings show. But believe me no matter what he says he is hurting!! Just be close to your daughter and anyone else that is kind and compassionate at the moment. Hugs coming to you.....it is a long road for sure. Keep posting and reading, some of these posts really help me when I am having a bad day.

Susan

At 1:15am on January 13, 2012, Kate Heintz said…: I am so sorry that I haven't been in touch for quite sometime. Well, I made it through the holidays. We had a tribute to Aaron on Christmas Eve. About 20 people came for dinner and then I made a toast to Aaron. It was very nice. The days following Christmas and New Years have been very difficult. I am still going to my Grief Group meetings. I find myself crying all the time and I miss him so much. Then yesterday my 102 yr. old step mother died and that doesn't help. I'm going to bed now. I'm tired. Hope you are doing OK.

At 9:49am on November 21, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: How did the 18th go? Wasn't that the day your spread Aaron's ashes with his best friend? Maybe your daughter is still feeling that pain at the moment. It just doesn't seem real for so long. Some days I still look at his pictures and can't believe it actually is real !!!

At 9:48am on November 21, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Oh this is a tough one. How old is your daughter? Luckily my other child (not really a child) Tami 43 is with us all the time after Donny leaving us. I think it is good to do what is good for you. Does she have friends that she could share the day with? How far away is your sisters home? If only she would just go for dinner to help her make it through the day. But it is so fresh for both of you. Sometimes I try an think back at the first year and it is all a fog.....have no idea what I did. But I do know I found comfort in just staying home and having people at my home. We did go out but couldn't wait to get back home. There is no easy way for sure. Maybe as the day gets closer she will join you.

Hugs, Susan

At 9:15pm on November 17, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: I will be thinking of you tomorrow on the 18th. That is also my brothers birthday. It was be an exhausting day for you. But like you said, "you take one day at a time". That is all you can do. That is all anyone of us can do!!!

The books will help some and you have plenty of time to get to them.

Warm hugs for you and your family tomorrow......

Susan

At 11:55am on November 15, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Morning Kate, just checking in to see how you are doing. I hope the books are helping you a little bit. My warm hug going out to you and keep in touch.

Susan Donny's Mom

At 11:55am on November 15, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Morning Kate, just checking in to see how you are doing. I hope the books are helping you a little bit. My warm hug going out to you and keep in touch.

Susan Donny's Mom