Sorry for not getting back with you. My husband had a heart-attack and just went through open-heart surgery - trible by-pass - so I have been out of touch. I will get back with you. trying to catch up. You have to change everything in your life when they go through that.
I understand your frustration and at the same time admire how you and your sister are working lovingly together. So many times the parents suffer due to the children bond not being loving enough to support the care of the parents. I hope you and your sister realize how blessed you have enable your mother to be with your loving hands. (Exodus 20:12).
God did not give us 10 suggestions but 10 commandments that includes honoring our parents. When we are in the process of becoming parents love being instill among the kids is a strong factor to be considered at a very early stage as it will have an impact on the amount of help the you as a parent may get or receive in your later years.
I had to let you know that by just reading your statement - you and your sister are really close and so much love is shared between the two of you.
I hear your pain in respects to your situation. I was once in your situation and can speak from EXPERIENCE. God gave us a commandment "Honor your father and your mother" - Exodus 20:12. This was a commandment not a suggestion. However, the times that we are living in depicts man being lovers of "themselves" and not have any "natural affection." What may appears natural to you to some it is not.
You are honoring your mother as commanded by God. You will one day look in the mirror and despite the hardship - you will be able to live proudly with yourself.
The Scriptures say that caring for family members is an obligation for Christians. “If anyone does not provide for those who are his own, and especially for those who are members of his household, he has disowned the faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8)—ED.
Kathy, you are a blessing to your mother and you and your sister or any other sibling that' still displays tender loving affection toward your mother is not going unnoticed by God.
I lost my husband on July 13, 2006, then my son on Nov. 20, 2006 and after a very long winter, my 15 year old granddaughter died from unknown causes. I couldn't get over one before another happened. After 4 years, I'm still grieving for all 3 and probably will the rest of my life.