Ken Neely
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Her Birthday Today

Posted on September 15, 2013 at 7:14am 0 Comments

  Today Wendy would have been 46 years old. I'll observe it with a Mass in her honor (Wendy was Catholic) and later I'll have dinner in our favorite restaurant. As I have done before I'll have a place set for her, and a Marguerita will wait for her to join us. At the end of dinner I'll drink it in her memory. There will be tears, as there are now. I don't find it morbid, it's just my way of celebrating the life of my unique and sparkling fairy princess.

  Every day brings news…


Feeling Adrift

Posted on July 10, 2013 at 7:22am 0 Comments

    Some weeks have passed now since Wendy left us. Each day seems the same, without purpose, without meaning. She was literally the center of my existence. Every action, every thought was about us, about her. Now that focus is gone, and only memories remain. I am lost without her.

  It know that I must find the "new" in my life. New challenges, new reasons to get up each day. It has been said they we all need three things. They are: something to do, something to look forward…


She Is Gone

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 9:21am 0 Comments

With aching heart I now share that the day of Wendy's passing has  come and gone. The end came quickly and mercifully after her release from the hospital. I'm grateful that she lived long enough to have a lucid visit with her mother and sister, and with my mother the following morning. She went to sleep after those visits, and 12 hours later passed away in my arms.

  The support of friends and family has been inspiring.  I'm struggling with a curious problem, though, and have been for…


Standing The Watch

Posted on June 17, 2013 at 11:13am 0 Comments

My loving wife Wendy is home from the ICU. Hospice care has started for her, and I think the end is now quite near.

She and I were married just 7 weeks ago. She is 45, I am 66. A week after our wedding she began to feel run down. We sought medical attention, and the doctor was so shocked by what he saw that he sent her to the ER.

Incredibly the diagnosis was end stage liver disease. She has been back to the emergency room twice more now for additional blood…


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At 10:30am on June 24, 2013, Barbara Rieger said…

Dear Ken,

I read both posts that you left on this site this morning June 24th. I'm not sure what I should say because I don't want to say anything that is in any way inappropriate. So often people have done that with me and I felt so upset over it. No one knows how anyone truly feels because everyone is from a different place in life with a different background and different beliefs. Nonetheless, I want to acknowledge you and the love you shared with your wife Wendy. I know only to well what it is like to lose a loved one. My only son/child Joe was taken from me and all those who love him by a drunk driver April 5, 2010 and this November 19, 2012 my mother passed. My husband contends that everything in life is random.

I don't think I can answer your curious problem except to say that it's okay to take one step at a time. It will come in waves and just go with it when it comes.  

Sending Love,



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