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RERELEASING GRIEF - HOW?

Posted on August 2, 2009 at 1:10pm 0 Comments

RELEASING GRIEF - HOW?



In life it is not common for all of us to experience loss in some way. It’s only natural that each person will express grief in their own way as well. And such factors as whether the loved one died suddenly or death came after a long illness might have bearing on the emotional reaction of the survivors. However one thing appears certain: Repressing your feelings can be harmful both physically and emotionally. It is far healthier to release your grief. How?… Continue

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At 11:00am on September 6, 2008, In Loving Memory Of Kevin Conatty said…
hey Kevin I opened some web pages please take a look at them
http://kevinconatty.legacy.com/lmw/Homepage.aspx
http://kevin-conatty.memory-of.com/About.aspx
http://rememberedbyus.com/KevinConatty/index.asp?Page=1#LightACandle
please feel free to right some thing on the pages my daughter read it and it make her very happy when people say nice things about her step daddy it makes me feel good to take care
At 11:04pm on August 6, 2008, Kevin said…
Glad you to hear it. I’m sure you can , and you will. It’s completely natural to feel as you do. It will be a daily struggle for you and it will take it’s own time to reach a leveling off as it were. Don’t let others dictate to you as to when that should be. We all suffer differently. And no. You are not at all being selfish. It’s not uncommon for people to ask why not take someone who is suffering? It really seems logical when one has so much to live for or planned . Yet many have been taught that God needed them and took them. It’s not always comforting to hear that, especially when that person was needed here to. They best way to know for sure to that question is to look at the Bible.

God created humans with a yearning to live forever. At Ecclesiastes 3:22 it says he put “ a sense of eternity in their hearts.” He did more than give us the desire to live forever, he gave humans the opportunity to do so.

No doubt you are familiar with the story of our first parents Adam and Eve who were created perfect, no defect in mind and body. (Deuteronomy 32:4). Placed in a lovely paradise, God purposed that man would live forever fill the earth with perfect offspring. (Genesis 1:31, 2:15) So why do we die?

God commanded Adam “From every tree of the garden you may eat to satisfaction. But as for the tree of the knowledge of good and bad you must not eat from it, for in the day you eat from it you will positively die.” (Genesis 2:16,17) Eternal life was condition for Adam and Eve. It depended upon obedience to God.

Tragically in Genesis 3:1-6 we know how they disobeyed God’s law. In doing so, they became sinners, 1 John 3:4 says “sin is lawlessness.” As a result, Adam and Eve lost the prospect of eternal life. Why? Romans 6:23 tells us “the wages sin pays is death.”

Adam and Eve now had sin and death become part of their make up. Hence they could not produce perfect offspring, any more than an imperfect mold can produce a perfect object. (Job 14:4) Every human birth is a confirmation that our first parents lost perfect health and life for themselves and us, their offspring. Paul wrote “Through one man sin entered into the world and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men because they had all sinned.”


Today scientists can‘t pinpoint why we grow old and die. They even can acknowledge that in accord with the first scripture I quoted from, the human body really should keep going. .
The Bible, however, explains that we die because we are born sinful, having inherited this condition from our first human parents. But know why we die may beg they question why does God let us die or suffer as we do? And if he’s not taking us when he feels it is time based on the scriptures in the Bible, what happens when we really die?

But right now I just wanted to share that with you hope you feel assured that your feeling is completely natural . Because despite it seeming natural, death is not, was never meant to be and why it feels so wrong and hurts so much. God has promised that “As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing.” at 1 Corinthians 15:26, he promises to you too where the scripture says “You are opening your hand and satisfying the desire of every living thing.” (Psalm 145:16) Yes indeed you can see Kevin again.
At 8:26am on August 6, 2008, In Loving Memory Of Kevin Conatty said…
Thank you I am tring to be strong for Sarah ( my daughter ) but I just miss Kevin I just don't understand why god needed to take Kevin there are so many bad people in the world why not take one of those people or what about someone that is in so much pain take that person maybe I am being selfish and I am so sorry if I am I just love Kevin he was my hole world my only Family beside Sarah but I guess I will keep tring for now at lease
At 2:14pm on August 4, 2008, In Loving Memory Of Kevin Conatty said…
On the morning of July 15 2008, I lost my fiancé of a Brain Aneurysm he was only 48 years old.. On that day, my world collapsed. I still have not come to terms with my loss. I am trying my hardest to deal with it but I don't know how I want to keep the home just the way he left it and I don't want to take off my ring I know or at least people say I need to move on but I am not ready Kevin is my only family I lost my dad 11 years ago but the pain is nothing like this my mom is still alive but we don't get along I call Kevin's cell phone just to hear his voice I try to keep my head together but it was so hard I was NOT prepared for Kevin dying Kevin death was unexpected, we did not even know he had Brain Aneurysm . He was only 48 years old,
I used to fly off the handle and get upset about trivial things. You know like if the house was not clean etc. But now I feel that life is too short, and you just don't know if you are saying good night for the last time. Who cares what the house looks like now. I thought I was going to grow old that we were going to have a family he is my family nothing makes sense to me any more it is like what did I do so wrong that God had to turn my daughter and my life up side down I try to explain to my daughter that her step daddy is ok in heaven, but all I do is cry . She can not understand why I am crying if heaven beautiful & wonderful, yet I am so sad. All I tell her is that I miss Kevin and the family that we were I am scared that my life will never be better I know I will never have a man that loves me and my daughter like Kevin does I try to hold on to things like for a week this bird kept coming to my window every morning I would wake up and that bird was there I tried to believe that it was Kevin coming to me and telling me that things will get better but I really don't think I believe it I what to believe it just like I want to believe that one day when I go to heaven that I will be with him again but I don't know if that really is true either the one thing I do know is I am so unhappy and I miss Kevin more then words can even say I really am trying to be strong for my daughter but I really don't know how long I can keep this up
 
 
 

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