I am so sorry for your loss. Honey, you have so many of us praying for you, and one day you will understand why you were not with your mother when
God took her home to heaven. Our Lord has His reasons and we are not in a position to ask why.
When my son was in hospice, in Jan of 2008, our family kept a vigil with him, and one day I asked The Lord if I could please be with my baby, he was 34, still my baby, when he died. We are never ready weather we know or do not know as the time comes
near. On Jan. 9, 2008 at 12:11am I was with my boy
and I am so thankful that my son asked The Lord to let his mother be with him when he died. I thank God
everyday for that night. I feel blessed that I was able to tell Rich to go through the tunnel towards the
bright light, just go to The Lord. Mom will be ok. and
he died. Also 10 months after that my sister lost her
youngest son, who was 43 yrs. How unfortunate that
my oldest son had to find him dead in the bathtub.
Having just lost his brother now his cousin, it would
be thought to be more than anyone could cope with.
One month after that on November 18, my mother
passed on to be with her 2 grandsons. It's coming to be 1 yr for my mom. I loved her with my whole heart
she lived with my husband and myself for almost 10 yrs. I took care of her with my sister. We were both
grieving the loss of our sons, and now our mother.
Please don't be so hard on yourself. Your mother chose not to have you with her, maybe she thought it
would be too hard on you and she made her own
decision to pass on alone. She loves you thats why
you weren't with her. The person dying makes that
decision. Not us. I will pray for you and for some
peace. If you would like to e-mail me directly please do so, it's a little more personal. Only on the subject
like please not you're from legacy, otherwise I won't
open it. My e-mail is email@example.com.
My prayers and hugs are with you
Please know that I am sorry for your loss and that you will be in my prayers. Your story sounds so much like mine. As humans, we all have regrets but KNOW in your heart and soul that you did your best....and she understood, okay?
December 7, 2008 my mother was taken from my family and we struggle to live to this day. I went to her house to take her breakfast and I did not even think about her not answering her phone. I walked to her room to le t her know I had her and my son breakfast. As I turned on the light I seen her but I did not realize she had past. She normally would moan or move when I called her name but she just lay still. I finally realized she had past and I lost it. I screamed her name and open the door to where my son was to tall him she was gone. I called my siblings and best friends but could not reach everyone So I told my son to call everyone. I just lost it. I had so many regrets because for one my mother had aksed me to spend the night she had only been out of the hospital for six days I was so consumed with my own life I had just left my 14 year old son with her and promised breakfast in the morning. GOD knows if I would have only known. I took her living for granted. I still can’t believe it, I pray this is just a dream. My mother was my world I talked to her every day. She was always there for me. She raised us all to be a close knot family and we are. It is seven of us, 19 grandchildren, and 4 great grandchildren. Everyday day of my life a part of me dies because I should have stayed. She was a wonderful mother and life without her is confusing. I can’t understand why this is happening to us. It has almost been a year and things still have not gotten better. Lord lift us from this phase because we are dying inside.