I am so sorry you had to go thru this pain today. You didn't mention if you had family and friends with you but I hope so. It does help. I presume you were talking about the standard obituary they print just because if you don't write anything special. It seems they don't really say anything personal, just state the facts. So sorry for you. I do hope you got your husbands flag. It meant alot to me and my family. Know that we are here for you. Hugs