"I haven't read this entire thread, but my mom died 6 weeks ago, and while talking to the nurses at Hospice, I found out that it is very normal for patients to wait until their family members are out of the room before they actually pass away.…"
Ladies I'm sorry your hurting so and I feel that I must tell you that it takes time to get over it. Some might be able to move on in a matter of weeks or months. It took 5 years for me to start feeling better about losing my Mom. At the 6 month mark I even got impatient with myself because I thought I should be doing better. Then I got to reading my bible and I read that there's a season for everything, and to grieve is one of them. A season could be different in God's time compared to our time. I finally took the pressure off myself and allowed the process and trusted in the God that he knew what he was doing for me. Take your time and forget about what other's say. Sometimes it's best not to discuss it with family that's able to move on and you don't want to be the one they avoid for being a downer but you have us and others who really care that you can talk to about it. Gob bless and be with You.
I appreciate your support over the past couple of weeks with some of the comments you have made regarding my situation. I miss Mom fiercely and nothing helps for any length of time. Dad was crying yesterday on the street after coming home from dealing with taking Mom's name of the joint savings account. But he said to me later 'we've got to snap out of it." He's never been great with words so I know he meant that he has to hold it together. But between that comment and my brother's about "I'll give you 2 more weeks" it just makes me miss Mom all the more. She was the one I would turn to about all these details, and now she's not here. I was her caregiver and I loved every minute of it. I wish I taken a video of her like you did of your Mom. I did tape some stories years ago. I was there for last breath and I stayed with her overnight in the hospital and I wish I could hold her hand right now. I wish I could have taken away her pain. And I wish we had said 'goodbye' and see you again. She passed January 2 and I don't think I am getting any stronger. If you ever want to email me my address is Junepeony@gmail.com. I really need an online friend who wont tell me to go see a grief counsellor but will just talk and listen.
Hi Lauren! My name is Faith and I recently lost my dad unexpectedly. My dad was only 55 and healthy as a horse. He fell trying to hang Christmas lights on his house. Dad had spent 8 days in the hospital a passed from a pulmonary embolism on Dec.7. I'm stay sad and down. My husband tells me also I basically need to get over it but I don't know how.