"Laura, I do understand. There was always a look in husband's eyes of desperation although outwards he was fighting as hard as he could to live. I have pictures of him when he was well and there was a sparkle in his eye. As soon as he got sick…"
"I feel the same as you do. I saw Bo in my dreams twice and it was a fast glimpse and he was not relating to me in the dream. I ask him everyday to please come to me in a dream if only for one time to hold me, kiss me and call me Baby…"
"Kim, you have just read my mind. I think about what you have just written all the time. We had almost two years from the time my Bo was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer till he passed. All our time was spent fighting to keep him alive. It's…"
"I wish you knew that I think you are one of the sweetest men I know and LouAnn was blessed to have your love. Some of you wishes did come true. Your post comforted me and made me feel better. I do feel your hugs all the way across the blue Pacific…"
So Sorry to hear about your dog,the pain must be unbearable,just when you think ok I can do this something happens to put you back down,I will keep you in my prayers & know that you are loved by many,we have to keep each other going cause we are the only ones that know the feeling ,those that have not loved & lost have NO idea how we feel.
I"d like to send you a hug( ) .
Walk in love & peace
We offer our sincere condolences for your untimely loss of your husband. Your grief may
ebb and flow. It has been said each of us has
this deep well inside of us that can be filled
to the brim with grief. Everytime we cry,
we empy some of the well. There will always
be wondeful memories you cherish, then
the well seems to fill to it's brim again.
Allow yourself to remember and to mourn,
it's part of your healing. Grief is a continuing
journing. Jesus Christ promised us by means
of his rasom sacrifice that he will resurrect
your husband. (John 5:28,29). According
to Isaiah 61:2 God is comforting the mourning.
Take comfort in knowing you have the hope of
seeing your husband again.
LINDA: I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM WITH GEORGE. YOU SEE GEORGE WOULD ONLY EAT 1 MEAL A DAY AND THAT WAS DINNER. AND WHEN HE DID EAT DINNER IT WAS LIKE HIS LAST MEAL. ON WEEKENDS HE WOULD ONLY WANT SOMETHING IF HE SEES ME EATING. I WOULD ASK HIM DO YOU WANT A ENGLISH MUFFIN HE WOULD SAY NO,. BUT WHEN HE SEEN THAT IT WAS DONE HE DECEIDED TO HAVE ONE AND SAY THANKS HONEY HOW DID YOU KNOW I WANTED ON THEN IT WOULD BE CAN I HAVE ANOTHER ONE FOR LUNCH IF I HAD A BLT I WOULD ASK HIM IF HE WANTED ONE AND YOU CAN GUESS WHAT THE ANSWER WAS BUT WHEN HE SEEN ME EATING AND I WENT TO THE RESTROOM WHEN I CAME BACK IT WAS GONE HE WOULD SAY IT WAS GOOD
Loni and I had many missunderstandings, but one of us was always right. It was usually Loni that was right. I would talk to much while Loni was trying to read her bible and she would go into the bathroom to read in slience. I would feel bad about that. Loni knew i couldn't shut up long enough. When she was done she would come back out and be smiling at me with that look; what am I going to do with you !
And that would make me feel better. We knew enough about each other that those little things didn't matter all that much.
linda,my name is Debbie,,,i hate the nights too.. i start feeling very low around 4:00 and its a struggle to keep from losing it on the way home from work,,,,,one little thing can send me into a whirlwind of tears and pain...why does it have to hurt so bad,,,when we marry we really do become one,,,,and a part of us is missing...My God it hurts...its been 35 days since my Byron and I breathed together. I miss him so much....I just want to feel better...
I will be thinking of you, Linda. Douglas died one week after our 26th anniversary (July 2009) so July will be most difficult for me. Our anniversary and his death plus June 28th will be his birthday. We were going to renew our vows as well. This past weekend I found our wedding album and inside was a copy of our vows (we wrote our own). I will read them out loud on July 9th -- and probably cry. Thank goodness for Ben & Jerry's!! Take care and know you are in my thoughts.
linda: it will be 1 year on march 1,2010 that i lost my best friend.(my husband) he just had a massive heart attack everyday i miss him more and more. it is not easy as people think because they are not in my shoes i am so sorry for everyone that lost a dear spouse a best friend i am trying to do the best i know how but i cry almost every day i do not want to do anything just to stay in my bed and talk to my husband. i would love to hear from anyone that is going thru this hard time. it is so bad that i am seeing a therapist once a week i feel i can tell her anything and cry when i want to. the only thing i really enjoying doing is going home and talking to him also by looking at his picture which is on my cell phone god bless each and everyone of us