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My beautiful mom....

Posted on January 13, 2010 at 1:00pm 1 Comment 0 Likes

I've posted (recently) several times, but.....

My name is Lisa. On November 12, 2008 I lost my best friend. My mom at 72 was the PICTURE of health. Never took a pill for ANYTHING. In December of 2007 she started not feeling well....not being able to eat....cough, etc...which landed us in the ER. She had a residual gallstone lodged in her bile duct leading to her liver. Bam. They removed it, and she felt GREAT! As the months went by, they had her come in for regular check ups to keep… Continue

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At 2:14am on January 21, 2010, LGWilson said…: Lisa...Thank you so much for your kind words.
I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am getting more comfort from people such as yourself than my own family.
I am trying to just absorb her goodness and forget my crazy siblings and the nightmare of dealing w/Med admin. Now with a little time built from losing her, I can start to feel grateful for being able to be there with her.
thank you so much for what you wrote.
xo LG

At 8:27pm on January 4, 2010, Lisa S. said…: Thank you very much. I'm just taking it one day at a time. I miss her more than words can say. Thanks for sharing your story. Happy New Year. :0)

At 3:32pm on December 26, 2009, Missingyou said…: Hi Lisa, I went back and read your first post and I'm sorry for the loss of your mother, I'm now 48 and lost my mother when I was 12, obviously I've moved on but I've never really gotten over it either, I think that's one of the reasons I couldn't see my stepfather at the hospital and it's very painful for me to attend furnerals, it takes everything I have not to break down, and lately I just don't go, which also fills me with guilt depending on who it is. But I do know each day you will heal a little bit more and she will always be on your mind and the good times will start popping up more than the sorrowful times.

At 3:20pm on December 26, 2009, Missingyou said…: Hi Lisa and thanks for the kind words, it does help. I should clarify just because he was my stepfather, he raised us as his own from when I was a baby and he kept us 4 kids together after my mom died of cancer when I was 12, but we had grown apart over the last several years but I never loved him any less. I couldn't bring myself to see him mostly because, like you said, I really couldn't bear to see him like that, he had a rare form of cancer that attacked the jawbone and they operated and removed part of it, so the thought of seeing this was unimaginable but he wanted to see all us kids before he died. My younger sister is his biological child with the same mom, and she always lived close to him, so in the end she took care of him and I'm very glad she was there, but she got mad at me because I didn't see him when she wanted me too, but not to tell us is unacceptable, she knew we loved him.

So I am trying to go the other route in my mind and try to remember the good healthy times we had together and how good he was to us, not perfect by any means but he did the best he could.