Yes, Liz, you can love one person without taking away from the other. Love is not a pie with only so many slices. My father was killed in WWII when my mother was very young and she remarried. I love my step father and he is still here at 88. He has been a great support to me. But my mom told me so much about my birth father he has always been a strong force in my life also. My mother also always loved my Dad and the day before she died she told me how excited she was that she was going to see him again. Life is weird but I believe this world is not the end.
Liz my deepest sympathy for your loss. I have not reached the one year mark yet and my children are older remembering their Dad but I am scared they might forget with time so I keep them reminde everyday. I have the feeling you are stronger then you think and by the sound of it your husband chose the perfect woman for his children and a great mum. (I think my husband is driving his dream car a Ferrari and has a good time looking down)
My 1 year anniversary was a day of mixed feelings. I spent it alone by choice. When I look back I should have spent it doing something. I cried a lot, kept yelling at his urn-why Bob why. His death at that time was needless.Had he done was he told by the drs. he probably would still be here. That doesn't help the grief. It's still very hard for me.I do not let people see me grieve any more as I know it makes them very uncomfortable. I just try for my sake as well as my kids, and grandchildren to make the best of every day. I have a shrine of sorts for him in the house. I still can't let his personal things go. One day I hope I am strong enough to let his things go to someone who really needs them. Good luck to you and try to stay strong for your sake and those around you also.
Same here. At the funeral, his friends were so supportive. telling me they will be there always. But 2 weeks later I started getting hate messages. That or they've completely ignored my calls. I thought to myself, "so what?". I know I don't want them in life as my friends anyway. They're judgemental, hypocrite, and fake. They were nice to me when Edward, ,my husband was still around. With his death came out their true characters. Sad.
i really dont understand how things will be better we did not have kids we have 2 pets family and friends act like they dont have time to talk or anything i understand they have there own family things to do they act like they care it is because they want something it is ok when i sleep at night i dont have to think about anything. coming home from work really hurts knowing there is no one there to be with.it really hurts to leave for work in the morning no one to say i love you to so yes my world came tumbling down thats why i dont see any hope at all and yes i miss her very much i dont know how to be without her i do think about ending my life everyday everyone says it is not the thing to do but they dont know what this feels like being alone it hurts really bad well thanks for listening ted