If you are even still participating in this support group I would like to offer my sincere condolences for the physical loss of your soulmate as it likens' to a complex puzzle where you are some of the pieces, your husband some, and your family some. When you lose those pieces of your life it is a very complex and surreal feeling to have to "work around" those gaps in your life.
I too lost my wife on May 31st 2007. She passed into Gods hands in her sleep as a complication of the many medications she had to take for pain. It was no different than any other day, except God had plans to change the path of everybody that knew her.
I wish I could help but I am still dealing with Roses passing as if it was today and my family and friends just don't understand my specific situation. It seems as though you have a similar situation.
I am new to this blog. I looked for others who had similar stories. I feel that those ware the ones with whom I can identify, share that "grief" and maybe in some way help me and them also through this awful, awful time. Brian, my mate of 11 years spoke to me at work at 3:30 p.m., when I got home at about 6 p.m., I found him underneath the car he was working on, he had been pinned underneath for approximately 2 hours, shortly after I spoke with him. I cannot to this day even think of this without crying . . .for him to be alone and for me not to be there. We always worked on cars together and I can hardly even imagine this happening.
My life has been in turmoil for the almost past three years; to make it even worse was that my boss at work was so horribly mean to me, made me feel so inadequate at work, that I finally quit, and then I lost my home and my car was stolen, and then after getting another, twice both cars broke down, I am living with my daughter now and don't even feel like I am alive. Even my own family keeps telling me I need to move on . . .how?
Hi Lynette,I'm sorry for your loss too.I am now on the same journey as you.Actually when the previous post was posted my husband was still alive and well.Later that evening on May 1st, he was killed on his motorcycle.It was instant.He was on his way home and was cut off by another driver.It has been only four months for me and I feel exactly the way you describe.These support groups are helpful.Mainly because they remind us that we are not alone and our feelings and frustration are normal.I find that those that haven't been there do not understand and don't have comforting words even though they may try.People say it is easier with time,but I don't seem to feel that. I miss him so much.He was a big part of my life.Harriet
Hi Lynette I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beautiful husband. My loss is different but the same. I am sorry you are alone. Do you have any friends. I am finding I have friends but am also alone. You can get through it. Let me tell you. I wasn't done helping my children when I lost a child He needed my help. Please help your children I know they are not your husband but he would want you to do the best for them I want you to do the best for them. They need you and you need them. Motorcycles are very dangerous but I am sure he loved it. We ride and it is comforting. But dangerous So many people have lost loved ones on vehicles... drugs it is extremely sad. I am here for you to talk I have children too. Carrie L
that is very sad that no one is there for you. I too had to make the decision to end my husbands life. my situation was different though. My husband was 35 and he had colon cancer. he passed after 10 months. i learned how to move on but i think that i was able to do that because i had time to tell him everything i wanted to tell him. On Dec 19, 2009 i lost my son suddenly. i dont know if i will ever learn how to move on after this. i was hard enough to move on after my husband passed but i was finally getting to a happy point in my life and then i lost my beautiful son. i miss him sooooooo much. the only reason i get up every day is for my other two boys they still need me. sometimes i just wish i could be with my son john who passed. he was only 17. i might not know you but i do care. that is what we are here for to listen to eachother. please contact me anytime you want to talk. i have a myspace and facebook.