Hi Lynette. Love to you . YOu have endured a lot. I have only lost one son. And cancer is so hard on people. I haven't had it in my life yet. But I have had death. and it is such a loss that i cry for him and our loss daily ... I have to find some way to cope with it and not move on but live on. for I am alive. Being alive hurts when someone you love dies. take care Carrie L
Hi Lynnette - I know what you mean about changing hopes and dreams and habits, but since he was my only child it seems so much harder. We will never see him marry, have grandchildren, have our own child to care for us in our old age. Not only is my son gone, but every hope and dream for the future is gone as well.
My circumstances are similar to yours. My remaining daughter was with each of her sisters the moment they died. My youngest died in her home in France, my oldest in her home in California. I am so proud that I raised such strong women. I know it has been a devasting ordeal for my remaining daughter. None of them ever complained & tried to make it easier for me. Life goes on doesn't it. It will of course never be the same but as my daughter said to me, "Mom, this is the new normal." Yes, that's true. Let's hang on to what we have left. Love, Shirley
I too have lost 2 children to cancer in the last 17 months, 2 daughters. No, it is not fair but it happened to us & many other mothers & fathers I suppose. It is with me every day, 24 hours a day. I believe people who have not "been here" don't understand that it never goes away. I'm not sure it ever will. I am finding the holidays difficult again this year. I still have another daughter & some other extended family members & we try to go on as best we can. You certainly have my sympathies & I totally understand your pain.
Hi Lynnette - Too bad - Wisconsin and Connecticut are certainly not close! I don't know how you could get passed losing two children. That is just not fair. Do you have any others? I think if I had a surviving child or if Tyler had children it might be better. But all the dreams, hopes and plans for the future died with my son.
Hello Lynnette - I lost my son Tyler at age 24 in January of this year. He was my only child. I feel exactly as you do and have every single day since it happened. I have come to realize that this will never be better - I will continue to live my life, but with unbearable sadness and loss every day. I will sometimes enjoy things, the the real joy and happiness have gone out of my life forever. This is my first Christmas and I feel like an alien - watching everyone around me decorating, making plans, celebrating, wishing each other well. I just stand there and think to myself - that used to be me, but never again. I saw your post to the group and I couldn't help but notice you mentioned Danbury. Is that Danbury CT? Because if it is, I live in Bethel!!!!!