"I am truly sorry for your loss, I lost my husband of 53 years together 6 months ago. I know exactly what you are going through. I hope you have a good support system. It will be helpful. I have tried everything there is, counseling, church, my…"
"Julie, I would be very interested in hearing your experiences. I am so very confused, I want so badly to have some kind of sign from my husband that he is ok. But I feel nothing, can not even dream about him. I would be very interested to hear of…"
"Jen, I just read your post, and am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine being on your shoes, with young children.losing our spouse is so overwhelming , and consuming, then you have to set an example and be strong for them.God will give you…"
"Helen, Not that young, I am 71, we were married for 52 years, and what a journey it was.I will keep him close in my heart till I can join him. That can't be soon enough for me, but I realize that I must wait my turn
You are so right about other…"
"Helen, just want to say, I am truly sorry for your loss. I lost the love of my life,almost 5 months ago, and still can't believe he is really gone. We were together since we were 18 and 19. So we grew up together, we had 3 sons, the early years…"
"I for some reason, haven't been able to dreaml
Of my husband either. I want to so much, it is like he is so totally gone. My best girlfriend, she lives in Florida, lost her middle son 1and 1/2 yrs. ago. She doesn't dream of him either, she…"
"Dixie, thank you for those words, I want so much to have a strong faith, I really do. I am seeing a Therapist. I am just so lonely, I have never lived alone, I was 18 when I married. I just don't know what to do without him, he was the wind…"
"Thank you Dixie, I really need to believe that. I was raised a catholic, but somewhere along the line My faith has been tested , I truly want to believe, but just can't believe that God needed my husband more than I do. I don't know what…"
"Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss, and I really understand your pain. I also lost the love of my life 4 months ago. We went to the E.R early in the morning of aug. 22, with severe abdominal pain. He went from the ER to intensive care to a hospice…"
"I am so glad that Christmas is finally over. I tried very hard to soldier on for my family, all the while my heart was breaking. Everything I was able to do, I did for him, because he so loved Christmas. But in the end after everyone went home, I…"
"Frank, I am so sick and tired of people saying, you have to get on with your life (what life) and God has a plan for you, how do they know that, are they in contact with God. The only plan I can see is for me to suffer, and make others…"
"Dixie, thank you for your words of encouragement , it is less than 4 months for me. I feel like I am losing my mind. My children seem distant to me, if I don't call them, I don't hear from them, they are boys, I always wanted a girl, but…"
"Diane, you have the right to have a pity party. Doesn't mean anyone will come but you. No one else can feel the same pain , you do at that moment. Your friends feel bad for you, but they have their lives,and until they walk in your shoes, they…"
"Frank, I am in agreement with you, I have tried everything that has been suggested to me, church, groups, mess, individual therapy, and nothing makes me feel any different.I still want my husband, and my life back, and no one can do that, so where…"
"Diane, I to have been searching for a sign, or a feeling or anything from, my husband. But all I can feel is pain and guilt. He died in the hospital from a ruptured bowel, all in less than 24 hr.s He hated hospitals, and ended up dieing there.He…"
Marge, You are grieving not feeling sorry for yourself. You are trying to find a new normal and truly people do NOT understand. This is the hardest road to walk down and unless you understand gut wrenching grief you do not understand grief! Keep my offer in the back of your mind and I do hope you have luck with your therapist. But here comes that limb again, make sure your therapist has also experienced a loss such as yours. I am a firm believer unless you have walked in our shoes you know nothing about the path we are walking down. Hugs to you, Jane P.
Marge I hope I am not stepping out on a limb here but I live in Wilmington DE and attend a wonderful grief group comprised of older women (70/80 I am only 58) who all but one are widow. It is free and it is conducted by Catholic Social Services but you do not have to be a catholic to attend. It is an open forum and you are free to discuss anything you need to talk about. If you are interested I can get you directions and a phone number so you may contact the person in charge. Legacy is a great open forum but it does lack the human concept which I so needed. Any way I thought I would throw this out for you to ponder. Sending Hugs, Jane P.
Marge Babenko. YES....it is normal to feel this way, because I to do not want or care about being in this world without my husband ! I feellike I am in quicksand. And can't even move sometimes, even to do the simple things! I also never knew I could cry this much ! How are we going to get through these Holidays !!!!!!! Jesus help us with strength !
I am soooooooooooooooo sorry for your loss of your life!!!!!!!! I am also in a nightmare of my own and I am glad that I found this site without even looking for it,, I was looking for something else ,, but now I feel like I am addicted to this site! I cant stop writing my feelings and thoughts! You write everything you feel and think and one of us your guardian angel will be here to try and comfort you!!!! A BIG HUG TO YOU!!!!!
Marge, I am so sorry for your loss and even sorrier you are now joining us on the roller coaster called grief. Your feelings are normal and the first year is full of numbness, so try not to make any life altering decisions within this first year. It is a baby step process where you will take one step forward and 2 steps back. This type of grief is like no other and do not expect many to understand your pain. Unless someone has experienced a loss such as ours they just don't get it. It is now about you and finding a new normal so take your time, come here often for we are all grieving and all in different stages of grief. We pass no judgements and offer many cyber hugs. Hugs, Jane P.
Marge I am here to listen and cry with you. The pain will not go away and one has to work throughout it slowly. i am so sorry for you loss, I too lost my husband over two years ago, it still hurts a lot. We have to go, we are the memories of everything, all the good times that were shared.
I have recently lost the love of my life, and am still in shock and disbelief. I feel like I am losing mind.I can't stop crying. I feel so lonely and lost. I don't want to be in this world without him. Is this normal,can anyone help me?