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This still seems so unreal. It's been 4 months and it seems like forever that Tom's been gone, but then again it seems like it was just yesterday that he left. It depends on the moment. Spring completely passed me by and already it seems like summer is half over. I still live the "what if's"...what if he never went riding, what if we could just go back, what if, what if. I know I have to live in the moment, but there is nothing I want more than to have our old life back. I miss Tom so much, I mi… Continue

Posted on July 16th, 2009 at 1:53pm — No Comments (Add)

Tom's Memory Decal on his '72 Chevelle

Posted on July 15th, 2009 at 8:55am — No Comments (Add)

I lived a fairytale life that most people only dream of.

Tom and I had been married 2 months and 9 days short of 25 years when he was suddenly taken from us. We have actually been together for 27 1/2 years. We started dating in high school. He was a junior, I was a senior and yes, I robbed the cradle by 3 months and 30 days (I would never give him the satisfaction of saying 4 months). He used to tease me all the time that I was a whole year older because my birthday was the year before his. Of course, the early years were a little tough just trying to… Continue

Posted on July 15th, 2009 at 8:48am — 1 Comment (Add)

If we had only known...

On March 5, 2009 my husband and a friend went snowmobiling...one of Tom's favorite past times. There was nothing unusual about this except the phone call at 5:15 that afternoon. It was Jason saying Tom had somehow flipped his sled and they were airlifting him to the hospital. I really thought they were kidding around trying to play a joke on me.. BAD JOKE!! But, as he talked I realized he wasn't joking...my comment to him was "You aren't freaking kidding me are you?" What a comment. Jason kept r… Continue

Posted on June 10th, 2009 at 9:34am — 2 Comments (Add)

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At 9:06pm on November 20th, 2009, Dorothy Minix said…: I feel your pain. I lost my boyfriend almost 4 months ago...you're doing the same thing I did...what if I did this or that, we can't do that, we did nothing wrong. My guy had lung cancer and we thought it was a hip problem...I was the caregiver and I kept saying if I had done this or that....I was there for him, he just didn't get to live longer....cherish those years together and you'll never forget but in time you will have to move on, especially if you have children.

Good luck!

At 11:31pm on October 16th, 2009, Karen Mitchell said…: Marlena, I feel your pain! I too lost my husband this year in March. He had pancreatic cancer, so we knew the worst was to come, but we did have some time to prepare, financially. So that helps, plus I am a CT tech at our local hospital, and I make a good wage. But I know the loneliness and I too had twin grand-daughters born 3 weeks after he died. They are a joy to me, but as you said, we were going to be grandparents together! It's hard to find your place in this world. I'll get a day off work and I don't know what to do with myself. My kids live too far away to just stop over. I really need someone to talk to and give me some direction. I feel kind of lost. Just wandering around. Most of our friends are couples, so if I am invited to get with them, I feel like a 3rd wheel. So many things have changed, but it is hard to move on.
Again - so sorry for your loss. I would love to chat anytime. Karen

At 1:22pm on July 16th, 2009, Marlena said…: The pictures were all distorted, the chevelle really looked like a punchbug..hehehe...looks much better now.

At 9:03am on July 16th, 2009, Marlena said…: Here's Tom's '72 Chevelle with his memory decal...somehow the picture makes it look like a punchbug, but it really is a chevelle.

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At 2:51pm on June 19th, 2009, Marlena said…: www.memorialwebsites.legacy.com/bunzy

At 1:39pm on June 16th, 2009, Marlena said…: It's been 3 months today. It's so hard to believe that Tom's been gone that long. I miss him with everything that I am. It's hard to imagine a future where he is not here by my side. It's just hard to imagine a future at all...I could care less about the future, honestly. Who wants a life of loneliness? And nothing can fill that empty hole of loneliness, but My Bunzy!!

At 8:14am on June 10th, 2009, Marlena said…: I had a fairytale life. It was all taken away March 16, 2009. I lost my love, my heart, my life that day. Our forever was ended 2 months and 9 days short of 25 years of marriage. Our happily ever after ended all too soon!

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