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Vicki Walker commented on Marta Felber's blog post How to Make It Through the Night
"I use a sound machine set to ocean sounds, with the sleep timer set for 30 minutes. That works well once I am in bed, but I dread going to bed alone so much, I will do anything else to stay up as late as possible. Needless to say, I have trouble…"
Jan 5, 2015
elaine campbell liked Marta Felber's blog post Memorials and Tributes
Nov 8, 2014
JUETTA HILL liked Marta Felber's blog post New Year's Day Can Be Any Day
Mar 20, 2014
Emily commented on Marta Felber's blog post Make Time for Grieving (Even if it means saying no)
"This year I am saying no to New Year's Eve parties. I forced my way through multiple holiday parties this month and tonight I am going to have a relaxing quiet night at home with my husband."
Dec 31, 2012
none commented on Marta Felber's blog post How to Make It Through the Night
"My husband passed on,the 19thJan 2012., Iam having a hard time, I hate the nights. My friends try to give me advice & encourage me to get out more. Iam blessed with wonderful friends, but my best friend is gone forever, all I want to do is cry.…"
Mar 16, 2012
George Bragg commented on Marta Felber's blog post I’ll Be Seeing You (But I Know You Are Not There)
"Singing reminds me of her - she had an incredible voice, and gave me voice lessons for a while anyway.  Also, TV shows, including "Mad Men" and "The West Wing".  And, strange as it sounds, organizers and office supplies…"
Feb 13, 2012
Diamond commented on Marta Felber's blog post Make Time for Grieving (Even if it means saying no)
"Hi, I had to say to myself "hurray" for her - sometimes we need "alone" time.  We do not need to have someone else tell us how to handle our emotions - especially with grieving.  Even the Bible states there is a time…"
Dec 31, 2011
Georgette Paquette commented on Marta Felber's blog post Make Time for Grieving (Even if it means saying no)
"It is only 6 months since I lost my soulmate/husband of 24.5 years in a sudden death and it is already the holiday season. 'No's' are very difficult as so many people seem to feel that I should be 'back to normal' when there…"
Dec 8, 2011
Susan Barrett commented on Marta Felber's blog post New Year's Day Can Be Any Day
"The old saying ,"Lightening never strikes twice" is far from true, as I am living proof.  Twice, I was left a widow in a twenty year period. When my first husband died suddenly at age forty, I was totally devastated.  He was my…"
Jul 24, 2011
Chicago Beard commented on Marta Felber's blog post Make Time for Grieving (Even if it means saying no)
"I have found that I enjoy these get togethers. Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace. I continue to miss my Rose more each day but also continue all of my activity. Life goes on and drags you along kicking and screaming whether you…"
Jun 13, 2011
Marsha H commented on Marta Felber's blog post My Journal Is My Friend - Always Near to “Hear” My Grief
"I have luckily always had a flair for writing so I have kept journals throughout years past.  Now that my dear husband Ernie has passed I write my feeling in a journal no matter how painful it may be.  Then I decided to write a letter to…"
Jun 12, 2011
Marsha H commented on Marta Felber's blog post Make Time for Grieving (Even if it means saying no)
"I was just invited out for dinner to my friend's home and I just thanked them and said 'no.'  They persisted and I simply have no energy left argue, but firmly said 'no, but I'll take a rain check.'  It is…"
Jun 12, 2011
Diane Cayer commented on Marta Felber's blog post My Journal Is My Friend - Always Near to “Hear” My Grief
"My daughter's name was Shelly. She was a wonderful daughter, the oldest of seven. Shelly was a mother also, to a 3 yr old little boy named Jaden. You see, when Shelly was married, she was severely abused by her husband. He went to jail for…"
Apr 26, 2011
Kathy Tolbert commented on Marta Felber's blog post My Journal Is My Friend - Always Near to “Hear” My Grief
"My daughter passed away on Dec. 21, 2010 and she left her loving family and a son who turned 4 on Jan.1. I started writing after her death about her life, so later on her son will know his mom, her likes and dislikes and how much she truely loved…"
Jan 23, 2011
Kathy Tolbert commented on Marta Felber's blog post My Journal Is My Friend - Always Near to “Hear” My Grief
"My daughter passed away on Dec. 21, 2010 and she left her loving family and a son who turned 4 on Jan.1. I started writing after her death about her life, so later on her son will know his mom, her likes and dislikes and how much she truely loved…"
Jan 23, 2011
Rowett commented on Marta Felber's blog post The Loneliness of Grief
"I,m  feeling the day as it come's forward it will be three yr's on the 11th  I keep feeling this empty feeling like i,m dead and it feels so bad  like i want to be sick  I can not even take a breath it's that kind…"
Jan 5, 2011

Marta Felber

Marta Felber, author of Grief Expressed: When a Mate Dies and
Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies, has held many
counseling and consulting positions in the U.S. and abroad,
including serving for 10 years as director and head counselor at a
center for expatriates in Jakarta, Indonesia.

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Make Time for Grieving (Even if it means saying no)

Posted on August 11, 2009 at 4:30pm 9 Comments

It’s hard for me to say no. With the best of intentions, many people want to keep me busy. It’s their “cure” for my missing Joe. I, too, thought I must get involved, and my calendar is filled. What I really need is more time to be alone and let myself grieve.



I’m saying no to:





Potluck suppers. I don’t feel like preparing food or making small talk. I would rather stay home with a good book.



Singles groups. The members are…

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New Year's Day Can Be Any Day

Posted on June 1, 2009 at 4:00pm 1 Comment

Last January I was a complete washout! I allowed a disturbing telephone conversation with a family member to push me into deep depression. Any thoughts of evaluating my past year and making resolutions were abandoned. So I’ve chosen TODAY as my New Year’s Day instead. I take stock of my life.



WHERE HAVE I BEEN? I’ve been to the bottom! Those periods of deep mourning for Joe were the absolute pits. I went through it, as I knew I had to, but thank God the worst is…

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I’ll Be Seeing You (But I Know You Are Not There)

Posted on May 10, 2009 at 4:00pm 2 Comments

The man coming toward me on the street looked like Joe. I stood staring, my breath coming in little gasps. He was tall and thin. He even walked like Joe. He passed me at the corner. It certainly was not my husband. The tears came. What I wouldn’t give to see Joe walking toward me again!



Joe, I remember you:



Coming up the steps to the deck with an armload of firewood.



Bending over the saw in your workshop.



Sitting in your chair, hands held…

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How to Make It Through the Night

Posted on April 5, 2009 at 4:00pm 2 Comments

Ideas for Getting to Sleep and Surviving the Long Nights



I can pretend during the daytime that Joe is away, working outside or in his workshop. Alone for the evening meal and crawling into an empty bed confirm the worst! The loneliness for him descends like a shroud and there is no escape. What do I do to get to sleep easier? And what about those long hours in the middle of the night when I wake and can’t get back to sleep?



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