"Thanks, guys! About the T-shirt..(Doncha just LOVE it?)
I ordered it from a t shirt place on EBay...I don,t remember who, and exactly how..but I had seen the words over the flat line somewhere, maybe a poster, or a t shirt, and I just HAD to have a…"
"Thank you both for the lovely comments. I was a bit hesitant about posting such a personal thing, but I was/am so proud of her I did it anyway. Yes, I am VERY blessed to have such an awesome daughter. I never had a good relationship with MY mother,…"
"Yup, the link works...I hope u
Y'all don,t think I was weird for sharing that..and on June 17 I will be alone...for my big 50... but in realality, if he hadn,t got sick and died, I
He really wouldn,t have wanted to make a big deal out of it.…"
Don,t click on that link untill u read this...I was feeling sorry for myself cuz my daughter was on a business trip, so I thought she,d at least send me a card or something. The mail came last Saturday and there was…"
"Ya know, I read everyone's posts, and they bring me so much comfort, even if I am not in the mood to post Georgia, it's nice to meet you...Bobs birthday was 2 days b4 Louies...luckily, he never made a big deal out of any holiday..but 2 of…"
"Hi Chria. You've come to a good place here. I am relatively new here, I wish I had found this site right after my husband Bob died, but I.ve only been here a few months.
All of us ask the same question, what are we going to do? .but there are…"
"Ok kids, I think I need help. Serious help. Bob died 15 months ago...and I spent those months bouncing thru the house, doing little crafts, with the occasional breakdown, but not really grieving. While I was doing this, I kept wondering what was…"
"TIFFANY!!!! I am going to say ONE word...NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Ok, now I am going to give u some straight talk. I will not sugar coat it. First off, I am guessing you are pretty young...you were the first person I ever responded to on Legacy, about your…"
"Hey everyone! Miss me? LOL? I haven,t been here in two weeks..I had a HORRIBLE mental depressing reaction to a shot of cortisone...I was so depressed I even thought about "the subject we must not contemplate"..but I am better now. It was…"
"You have us, MARSHA. I know it might seem insignificant , but we are here. All I have here in Oklahoma, are Bobs relatives, and I am only completely comfortable with his sister. I have some serious trust issues with most people. They offer to assist…"
"Ok part 2 for STEVE. Honestly, there IS a point to this, STEVE..but I am going to give a condensed version as telling it last night threw me into a huge depression...it is really too soon for me to b writing this, but WE CANNOT BLAME OURSELFS for…"
"STEVE I have so much more to say, but I cannot do it tonight. Please remember, YOU DID NOTHING WRONG and IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT HE DIED. Bob died of a combination of lung, brain and stomach cancer, but he had a bicycle accident around 2010' when…"
Mary.Jane ... You're a goof, but a good one! LOL I am so very sorry you're not feeling well and it amazes me you always joke around or make light of things with all the things you are going through. You hang in there girl!
Hi Mary Jane,
Thank you for the friend request - sometimes this is easier to use, with the added advantage of being free to say things more candidly without offending or confusing the other family members in Bereaved Spouses. I get it completely about how frustrating it is to post sometimes - the same thing happens to me all the time, and on top of that I have Windows XP and a less than top drawer access through my phone co., mostly because of severe budget constraints. That's why I can't always get on and just write quickly when I want to, so believe me I won't think you rude for taking time to reply, and know you will excuse me too!
I won't keep blathering now, except to say I haven't read yours or any other posts for a few days, but your comment about waking up crying is so familiar to me - sometimes tears start gathering and running down my face without my hardly noticing it anymore...sadly it is such a familiar feeling that I just hope I'm not in a store or talking to a neighbor. With friends, or of course Steve, I don't worry about it because they aren't upset or uncomfortable, they just reach for my hand or pass the tissues calmly. Friends- TRUE friends - are the most precious thing to me after my beloved Larry, and now Steve.
If you are inclined, I am giving you my email address off this site, so we can exchange notes and/or photos without worrying about words being censored. No, I don't have a potty mouth, but you will find that some words and expressions that seem tame are blocked to avoid offending anyone. I think that's a good thing, but have to re-type things trying to figure out what was objectionable in my original post, and that gets tedious after awhile.
I hope this gets through, and am so glad you are joining the conversations now, because these folks here really are very kind and honest, and have pulled me back from the brink of madness more than once I assure you! Have a pleasant weekend, find some peace for yourself, and write whenever you feel like it - I'm listening, and don't be afraid of asking me stuff, because I'm pretty mello as a person.